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What do you do for fun with your partner?

37 replies

CuntyBumpkin · 02/10/2019 18:50

Me and my Husband don't do anything. We watch a lot of TV. He's always tired from working as he gets up at 3.30. He's in bed by 9.

I'm feeling miserable bevause we literally don't do anything together. We don't have lots of money but I want to start doing more as I am afraid we are drifting apart.

What do you do with your partner to keep things interesting?

OP posts:
Marmozet · 02/10/2019 19:00

Why not do a date night once a week?

Interestedwoman · 02/10/2019 19:05

Pokemon fights and taking over Pokemon gyms! I never really gamed before, but got into this one because my lover was into it. It's a lot of fun and a lot of the stops are at parks and other places where you can get a nice cheap coffee etc.

We mostly drive to the stops/'gyms', but if you go on foot it'd be a way of getting fit too.

It's fun to fight monsters together or put ours in gyms.

I thought I would find it impossible to get to grips with the game, but it's really easy.

The game itself doesn't cost anything, and it's possible to play it all without spending any money. I suppose it uses data if you're out and about, but I have an ok and cheap plan where I never really run out.

There are Pokemon threads on here for advice, make friends in game etc www.mumsnet.com/Talk/video_games_chat/3662101-This-Mankeys-Gone-To-Devon-Pokemon-Go-Thread-26

Give it a go- would recommend. Have fun :)

WaynettaSlobOnTheSchoolRun · 02/10/2019 19:08

I need to be asleep by 10 as I get up at 5.30 for work. I'd be dead on my feet if I had to get up at 3.30am. What time does he finish and what hours do you work?

healthylifestylee · 02/10/2019 19:08

We enjoy watching films together
We have a tv show we love to watch each week
Baths together
I love going out for breakfast on the weekends at a local garden centre and enjoy looking around there for an hour
We go to concerts together
The cinema
Golf range

7Worfs · 02/10/2019 19:09

As PP we play games/watch movies together, but less so since baby arrived.

Early on in our relationship I worried that we don’t do enough together, but we’ve settled in a rhythm nicely. We are both homebodies, and often do our own thing around the house. Doesn’t bother us.

SherbetSaucer · 02/10/2019 19:11

We have regular dinners out (2-3 times per week). Play squash together every week. Gaming. Comedy nights and parties. Sometimes we’ll pop down to London and see a show (always have an overnight stay). We hired canoes the other day that was fun and had a picnic on the river. We’ve done skydiving together. Theme parks. Travel the world etc.

We both work full-time hours in very high-pressure jobs but we make time for each other. I think your husband needs to reassess his work/life balance!

pumpkinpie01 · 02/10/2019 19:13

3.30 ! Bet he's knackered , do you do stuff together at the weekend? We go for meals, drinks with friends , dog walks, watch box sets together , nothing exciting.

FinnBalorsAbs · 02/10/2019 19:15

Board games, watch sport together, play Harry Potter (basically Pokemon Go but with spells ;)), cinema occasionally.

It sounds bloody boring but I love it.

CuntyBumpkin · 02/10/2019 19:33

He works 50hrs plus a week. If he gets up early he will finish late afternoon.
I work Mon-Fri 9-5.

Weekends I'm off but he works some. When he's not working he has he son who is a typical teen who wants to game so they do that together.

I think I'm putting too much emphasis on going out. So many of you have suggested things that are in the house. I think we just need to make a conscious effort to spend time doing something a bit different to the usual routine.

OP posts:
SimonJT · 02/10/2019 19:38

Erm

Play fifa etc
Have a bath together and talk about random crap
Go to the gym
Watch films
Wrestle

Ninkaninus · 02/10/2019 19:48

Date night can be done at home, weekly, for not much money. But it needs to be just you two, without exception. Dinner together - get something a bit nicer or something you wouldn’t usually have, or a Two Can Dine from M&S or Waitrose (or any other supermarket that does it), set the table nicely, with flowers or a candle, turn telly off, put phones away and eat together and talk. Then a film or an evening walk. Or, go to a local chippy and get fish’n’chips. A curry house isn’t too expensive, same with a pub dinner once in a while. It sounds silly but that simple thing of making it a weekly date that is prioritised above all else, really helps to keep a relationship strong and connections renewed.

My OH and I enjoy going for a drive at the weekend and just seeing new places, little market towns or a new wood or beauty spot; usually we don’t stop or eat out but once in a while we’ll have a Sunday roast or whatever. We do a lot of walks together, and visits to the beach (just to walk the promenade, at this time of year!).

I like city visits but my OH hates it (crowds, noise, too much sensory stimulation) so we’ve decided I’ll do those on my own.

We also enjoy cooking together and will do that at the weekend to try new recipes.

The other thing we do for fun is lots of sex...and snuggling on the sofa reading or watching telly.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 02/10/2019 19:50

We stick the plungers to the floor in Tesco.

Been our hobby for years.

Massive apologies to the staff.

Ninkaninus · 02/10/2019 19:50

It’s ok to want to go out too! Nobody should have to live the whole of their relationship within four walls.

We tend to go out to eat once a month or so. Unless we’re on holiday (staycation) as we’ll do more to fill our days.

ShirleyPhallus · 02/10/2019 19:51

Nice breakfast and blozzas

ravenmum · 02/10/2019 19:55

The cheaper things:
Eating or having a glass of wine together (without TV)
Walking in the countryside or green parts of town
There's a local pub that has live singers on Saturdays
Any kind of dancing that sounds like it might not be too embarrassing if over-50s turn up Grin
Occasional film
Public events in town: markets, music events (picnic in the park type things), once a year there's Open Theatre Night. There's lots of stuff on here, though.
Swimming in a nearby lake when it's hot
This year we went to a folk music event

Hardly did anything with my exh as he was either at work or knackered (workaholic). I was pleased if we got a monthly date night. I only see current bf a couple of times a week, but we do a lot more. It sounds nice if you are looking to make an effort :)

Ninkaninus · 02/10/2019 19:59

We also watch YouTube (streamed through our telly) on topics that interest us so it’s not indiscriminately watching whatever crap happens to be on telly. We discuss and debate and talk a lot too.

loutypips · 02/10/2019 20:12

I'm looking forward to living with my partner so we don't have to do anything! For us, date night once a month would be good.
I'm happy just having dinner and cuddling on the sofa. My partner is always in bed early as he starts early in the morning, doesn't bother me as I can watch what I want or read before I go to bed.

Pistols69 · 02/10/2019 20:24

Life is pretty crap when you work his hours. I feel sorry for him. I couldn’t do that.

CherryPavlova · 02/10/2019 20:28

My husband works very long hours but we walk, go for supper with friends, swim outdoors, go to cinema or theatre occasionally, go to local pub sometimes.
Once in a while we both arrange to stay over in London or Birmingham for work and then go to a nice restaurant, go to a show or just wander through Covent Garden, Southbank or somewhere.

Ninkaninus · 02/10/2019 20:32

If it’s not impossible due to budget, I’d look at planning a night or two away every few months too. Just one night in a cheapish hotel in a town or city you’ve not visited can do wonders for feeling as if you’ve been away and had some quality time together. A dinner out, a hotel stay for a night and a little bit of walking around/sightseeing/museum or gallery/ simple lunch the next day is a real treat.

Tetrus · 02/10/2019 20:39

We both work full time and have a one year old. Don't do much midweek other than make dinner & watch tv together. At weekend, try to get out for walk/coffee/ park/ lunch/ visit friends/ family

Ahhashaker · 02/10/2019 20:57

We’re skint atm after buying our house so date night has been put on the back burner for now. We’ve been focusing on things that are free and fun.

We go for walks together. We play Pokemon as well. I wasn’t keen but he’s so into and it is really fun to go around town together and have a giggle doing it. Maybe see if you have a band stand anywhere which does free Sunday concerts?

We start series and pester the other about predictions for the ending. (Okay I do this whilst he puts his fingers in his ears wanting to keep the ending “pure” but it’s so funny)

We sit and do crosswords together. This was the best one when I was working 50 hour weeks including nights. We would take turns calling the the questions out and we would get very competitive who could get the last answer. We also enjoy doing quizzes together. Sometimes intellectual ones and sometimes those shitty buzzfeed quizzes that guesses your hogwarts house on what your favourite foods are. Grin

Northernsoullover · 02/10/2019 21:03

We go up and down the UK going to Northern Soul events.

fantasmasgoria1 · 02/10/2019 21:03

We catch up and chat, have dinner, relax and watch TV in the evening. On days off we go out to different places, go shopping, see historical things, go to beautiful parks, countryside etc, we have meals out usually lunch and we have a chat (tbh we have very interesting and meaningful conversations). We go out at night clubs, gigs etc. But work evenings we rarely go out unless we need extra shopping.

TheWorldAsh · 02/10/2019 21:11

Cycling (road and mountain biking)
Hill Walking / Mountain climbing
Countryside walks
Nights out in the pub.
Cinema/ Theatre / Concerts.

We went to a Retro Video Game and DJ event last week and played 1980's arcade games whilst drinking beer and listing to 1980's tunes. It was great.

Yeah we watch TV but I wouldn't want to do just that.