Things have got really bad tonight

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We made an agreement two weeks ago to stop arguing in front of kids, and to treat each other with more respect. I’ve been sticking to my end of the bargain, I’ve had to constantly remind him.
Today, I lost an ear bud in his headphones. He went absolutely ballistic calling me useless, not capable and even when I asked him to stop he would not. All in front of our daughter.
To not fuel the argument, I sent him a message saying because he has not kept to the agreement I have had enough, only speak to me via what’s app and I would not be leaving the house (he owns the house, we have three kids together and I have paid various bills extra and improvements on the home) He has read the message and told me I will not threaten him in his own home and that he will open up the door and throw me out. Considering we have a disabled child that he can’t look after for more than an hour without not coping... would he be allowed to do this? If I rang the police would they say I have to stay? The house is not in my name

Registering beneficial interest at this point, is pointless. Especially since it doesnt appear op has a good chunk of money to use in legal fees. Likewise the kids stating in the property.

The kids staying is different to the OP staying. And it's very unlikely he will be forced to pay for a home for her, (while he lives elsewhere, when they did not legally join assets.

And OP has no money to pursue this anyway.

And let's say OP raises the money. And manages to win.

What's to stop him 'losing' his job and not being able to pay the mortgage

Why on earth are you with someone who treats you with such little respect? Your DC deserve better.

That's not necessarily the case, Tillthendoftheline.

The OP can apply to the courts for the property to be transferred into her name until her youngest child becomes 18 and she will have the right to remain in the property until that time.

However, as I would expect any such application on the OP's part to be vigorously defended it could prove costly for her to seek this particular remedy, but that doesn't mean to say that she would be unsuccessful.

The OP can apply to the courts for the property to be transferred into her name until her youngest child becomes 18 and she will have the right to remain in the property until that time.

How often does that win in unmarried couples?

She might also win on a scratch card and be able to purchase her own house.

@DonKeyshot If you read my post in its entirety, SherbetSaucer, you will see that I'm well aware that the OP is not married but, nevertheless, these two remedies are open to her albeit, as I have said, either one may prove expensive to pursue

Neither option is open to her if she is not married!

What more can I say other than that you are categorically WRONG, SherbetSaucer.

Both options are open to the OP. If you research the law in respect of cohabiting you will find that I am right and you can come back to this thread to correct the misinformation you are promulgating in due course.

@SherbetSaucer you are wrong.

I am merely seeking to advise the OP of her rights in law, Tilltheendoftheline.

While you may appear to take the view that such rights are not for the likes of the OP, that doesn't mean that she should be denied this knowledge.

I'm not sure the bickering here will be helpful to the OP.

Any of the following agencies should be able to provide advice and guidance:

• Women's Aid
• Local council (housing department)
• Shelter
• Citizen's Advice

If the children are school age then the school may have a family support worker who can also offer guidance or signposting to more local services.

Best of luck OP

This resource should be added to 30something's list.
rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-advice/family-law

The lines are notoriously difficult to get through to, but the volunteers on the evening sessions are all barristers or solicitors.

They are unmarried and he owns the house!! What court is going to grant OP the right to stay in someone else’s house until the youngest is 18. She could attempt to start the process for sure but it would get shut down very fast!! It’d be a waste of money to even attempt such a claim!

Occupation Order

Please at least Google it, OP

You have dependent children together, one with a disability. You have a legitimate claim.

How are you getting on @Redfronts ?

My ex was like this. I did ring 101 for advice and they told me if he wanted me to leave then I couldn’t really do anything about it as it was his house.

If he’s treating you like shit you need to get out. Don’t understand why people treat others in this manner it’s disgusting.

The police aren't lawyers and as they deal with criminal cases they aren't always well versed in civil law, heartburn.

I'm sorry you had to uproot yourself and, presumably, your dc and hope that you are settled and happy in a new home where your ex no longer has the power to dictate terms.

If you want legal advice op, ask for this to be moved to legal. There are a couple of family lawyers regularly post on there, who do know what they are talking about.