Help to keep spark alive

[Emma71992]

Hi,

I'm looking for some advice about keeping the spark going in mine and my DH's relationship. We're in our late 20s and have been together for 11 years. We have a fantastic relationship but over the last few weeks we haven't had sex or been intimate very often. I must admit we have got into a routine where it normally only happens on the weekends due to conflicting work schedules - I do 9-5 and he often works until around 10 pm. I know all relationships go through periods like this and I expected it to at some point but maybe not so soon. We don't have children yet – which is when I expected it to start if I'm honest.

Any advice on how to get the passion back?

Anyone got any tips?

People may disagree with me but when me and DH were like this ( due to DC)?, we planned it. Some will say that’s clinical / not spontaneous etc but for me, the build up was a turn on.

If I’m honest though, you working 9 - 5 and him getting home at 10 doesn’t sound too challenging. It’s not like you need to go to bed at 8.pm for a 2am start! Is there something else going on?

I do struggle sleeping so I try to be in bed by 11 and by the time he's eaten I'm half asleep. I think we both just have to try and make more of an effort and plan it like you said. Then hopefully it will happen more naturally?

Plan a date night. It doesn't always have to be going out. A date night could be, make a nice meal for him coming home. Sit down together and eat it. (I understand it's late but even if it's a Friday night or just one night a week). It doesn't have to be about sex either. Just one a night a week dedicated to you both. It will more than likely turn into sex.