Help me decide

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My sister (who I've been very close to) has an important event coming up. Since she's been pregnant she hasn't asked me once how I am, not asked anything about me for months. We've seen each other a few times, so contact is through texts.
Without sounding like I'm jealous (I'm not by the way), how can I bring it up? I feel a bit resentful and unbothered about her event and I don't want to be.

Is there something wrong with you? Are you ill? Is that why she needs to ask?

Yes I have a few health concerns but even if I didn't you would have thought a simple "how are you?" would be nice, instead of it being me, me, me!

Why don't you say "have you noticed you never ask me how I am anymore?"
Don't understand why if you're close you'd just stew on it and not say anything instead of just asking.

Is it worth mentioning, or do I just carry on as usual? We've had such a great relationship. But it's really surprised me.

MySon I wanted to but wouldn't that make ME sound me, me, me?

It's effecting you to the point it's bothering you so I don't know why you can't casually mention it.

Does she ever start the message conversation? When you text her what do you say?

Presumably you have been asking how she is?

Yes we both used to ask each other all the time, including after she said she was pregnant. She stopped asking how I was but was sending stuff through messages about her, mentioning stuff about her but not asking how I was, (I'm not just talking about a few times). She instigates messages now (all about her) but I don't. If she messages ,I message back kind words but nothing else, I keep it short.

Perhaps you both have noticed the difference in the way you both text one another or maybe she is oblivious to it or maybe there is a reason, i find texting very hard to know when someone is being funny or upset with you and can read things the wrong way, give her a ring instead of texting when you both got some time for a chat and fetch it up with her if you still feel you want too as I'd like us both to be more involved with each other's lives and feel you never take a interest in what's going on with me but if there isn't a issue then yes it may seem very me,me,me, I would just do what she does and message her things about my life and ring her every week or so for a quick chat rather than texting

Thanks everyone and @makesmilingyourbesthobby do you mean it could look like it's all me, me, me from my side or hers?

She may take it your being all me,me, me if she hasn't even noticed she's been doing this and there is no issue to why she doesn't ask about your life, for me I'd choose wisely how I delivered it if I felt I needed to say something if I really had no idea why things had changed in my communication with someone and it was upsetting me

Hi, you're making me feel guilty now lol as it feels an analogous situation- I used to call my mum fairly often but have been a bit busier over the summer, so haven't spoken to her much at all.

Your sis is probably just completely wrapped up in pregnancy etc. She should ask how you are. It's her who's making it all about her, her, her.

Perhaps you could ask to pop round for a cuppa or something?