I don't know where to go from here.

[JammyGem]

I can't stand DH anymore. We just argue and bicker constantly, and neither of us even likes the other.

I want to leave. I want to find happiness for me and DD on our own. But DH is the highest earner. I'll never be able to afford nursery, bills and rent on my own. Is there any kind of financial help that someone can get to help them start on their own? Any special schemes?

I can't be around him anymore. I feel like shit constantly and my mental health is in tatters. But I can't see a way out. If I didn't have DD I'd just take the easy route and kill myself till escape, but I can't do that to her.

Please help.

Citizen advice can also help with your depts

Well he dropped a bombshell last night. He plans to quit his job and move back to his home country at the end of the month.

I wanted to give us one final try, go to counselling etc. We owe DD at least that. But he won't hear it. Refuses to talk about what we're going to do regarding him seeing DD. It's like he's decided he's going to move back and just forget we exist.

Oh wow. That is a bombshell. Is he serious? Does your child have a passport? If yes, you need to get that hidden, out of the property so he doesn’t try taking dd with him

Yesterday he was angry and it was definitely. I've tried to talk to him and I think I've softened him as now it's only a probably.
She does have a passport. Thankfully his family are pretty reasonable so if anything happens I know they'll help me. Plus, as we never got around to having our marriage certificate stamped etc at the French embassy, our marriage isn't legally recognised there. So would that would make it more difficult for him to take her and keep her?
I doubt he would anyway, he wouldn't be able to look after her.

He does smoke cigarettes and weed
And you live on 1 meal a day!?
What does he pay for in the house, bills, etc....???
Stop trying to soften him.
Sounds like you will be far better off without him in your life.
Tell him to go home and you can live a far more financially life without him dragging you down.
None of this right OP.
You must be able to see that.

Re your comments in quote marks:-
"Thankfully his family are pretty reasonable so if anything happens I know they'll help me".

Do not assume anything here with regards to his family. I would think that sadly they would side with him because he is their son after all.

"Plus, as we never got around to having our marriage certificate stamped etc at the French embassy, our marriage isn't legally recognised there".

Where were you married and what sort of ceremony did you have?.

God OP, it sounds like you really need to get your ducks in a row now...

He was planning on leaving you both and not looking back by the sounds of it.

Please contact your parents and see where the land lies at least.

Your relationship isn't going to last and life is too short to be miserable.
Do yourself and your baby a favor and be ready to leave

Donethinkin is totally right about your child’s passport. Take it out the house NOW and give it to someone you trust who won’t give it to your husband.

Even if you have one and hide it, he can still report it as lost and get a replacement without telling you. So this isn’t foolproof and you may need to get a court order , if you think it’s a real threat.

If he takes your child abroad without your consent then it’s child abduction . But you want to prevent that happening rather than have a long and costly legal battle after it’s happened.

More information here
www.reunite.org/parents.asp

There’s country specific info there, please check out his home country. There’s a particular problem in many Muslim counties .

Please read this Prevention guide

www.reunite.org/edit/files/Library%20-%20reunite%20Publications/2018%20Prevention%20Guide.pdf

You will see that your husband is already showing some of the warning signs mentioned in the first couple of pages.

Do not I repeat NOT discuss this concern with your husband. If he would not dream of doing this then it will cause even more arguments.

And if he IS planning to do it, talking about it won’t stop him. You need to take ACTION. Talking to him might give you false reassurance that will stop you taking the practical steps you need.

Also forgot to ask - does your child have dual nationality ? And is your child included on your husbands passport ? she can’t be on his UK one ( assuming he has one ) but in some other countries a child can be on their parents passport.