He's a open book apparently- Red Flag?

[locketsprocket]

Ok so been chatting to a guy online and now swapped numbers and arranging to meet weekend after next, he keeps on about being a open book and will answer any question or tell me anything I want to know honestly

Why?? Am I missing something, feel like I'm not asking the right questions I was just going with general chat and waiting until we meet as what we going to talk about otherwise

Should I be concerned

Can’t stand people who pointedly tell you about who they are & their traits. It seems disingenuous

Pull him on it, ask why he continuously says it? To me it’s like when you say ‘honestly.....’ just before you tell a lie.

If I were going to guess I would say he has something to hide and he has a load of well thought out explanations he’s desperate to use, if only you’d ask.

Agree with what people have said about people who declare honesty all the time seem to be the most slippery.
Also it’s odd for an adult to state what they are all the time unless it’s part of a broader explanation of something.
People who repeatedly serve up I’m honest, hardworking , whatever always have a bit of a hidden agenda in my experience. Or are immature.

If a person is kind, honest or whatever you would observe that in their actions, they would not need to shout it from the rooftops, so if someone is telling me repeatedly they are honest I would question if they are trying to convince me or themselves. Proceed with caution.

Well then ask away....

How big your house?
Do you own your own house?
How many partners have you had in the past?
How many of those have you cheated on?
Are you into porn?
Do you love your mum?
How prominent is she in your life?
Do you have DC?
How often do you see them?
Do you support them financially and emotionally?
Do you have a successful career?
Why are you single?
How long have you been single?
Do you believe in equal rights for the sexes?
When in a relationship is it OK for you both to have hobbies and interests outside of that relationship?
Are you a truly optimistic person?
What is your ultimate life goal?
What's the worst thing you've ever done in your life?
Are you emotional, do you cry?
Do you do things for others?
What do you like about yourself?
What do you NOT like about yourself?

Get going!!!

I'd be googling his arse off and closing that book. hahaha. Perfectly put

Usually if they have to describe themselves as that ...they are so NOT !

Listen to your intuition OP. He's trying to force intimacy/compensate for something/tell you what he thinks you want to hear. At best he's annoying and weird; nobody normal speaks about themselves that way on a loop . Stick him back on the shelf/bin before you get drawn in further and save yourself the time.

I'd say another word for open book
Would be unboundaried it's definitely not healthy to share everything with a stranger. The few people I've known who have been like this have had personality disorders

Not a red flag necessarily however, definitely one waving for sounding like an utter cock