Brother's girlfriend hates my toddler

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Just a little rant - Any advice is appreciated.

I'm very angry with this girl (22), she has been with my brother for 2 or 3 years - it's a toxic relationship with him using words like mental abuse and door-mat. Up and down the drama is intense. She is a horrible person and treats him like trash. Yet he always goes back

2 weeks ago they " broke up" and he told us told us some of the awful things that she had said about our family. I don't care about the personal attacks, just this one thing - she said that if her and my brother ever had a child, that said child would never be allowed to play with my LO because he is mixed race . WTF.

She is justifiably now banned from my house and from ever looking at my child. I want to tear out her eyeballs. (p.s I won't, shes not worth it.)

My brother is on a date with his ex. She now has a new boyfriend in these 2 weeks therefore she is now cheating on him as well (bro knows about all of this).

My LO at 18 months is innocent and beautiful. I don't understand how anyone can think that of a baby. How do i make him see sense? He needs to see that his family should mean more than this stupid little girl...

Tell your brother to speak to the men's advice line www.mensadviceline.org.uk/

My first thought was that your brother is the problem here - he has claimed she said something that is totally calculated to make you see red and think "right, that woman is beyond the pale, never to set foot in my house, unforgivable until the end of time".

Is it me, or is "if we had kids, they wouldn't be allowed to play with your nephew and niece" a really... unlikely thing to say to your partner? Most people would take that badly, so if she actually said it, she must have been reasonably sure it would go down well with your brother. What did he say to her about you that made her think this was acceptable?

Personally, I doubt she said it. I think your brother has made it up to make you hate her.

And even if she did say it, why did he tell you about it? Because he wanted to stir up drama and hatred, which is what he has very successfully done.

Why did he tell you that?

I find it quite strange that a lot of posters seem to be assuming the brother is lying/causing trouble. If he is being emotionally abused, his behaviour fits quite well, and he needs support to leave and to stay away, not isolation from family.