How much is too much.

[Josh82]

So I'm wondering how often most couples are Intimate. And is it normal for the partner to not typically be assertive with her needs.

I'm confused as to what needs your gf isn't being assertive with. In your other thread you say she's pregnant and is currently not feeling sexual, it sounds like she's been quite assertive that she wants to be left alone.

Sex and intimacy are two separate things. One meets a very basic need, the other helps a couple remain close.

Sexual intercourse happens irregularly over most relationships, with peaks and troughs, if you can weather a dry spell you can get through it. However if you always have been sexually incompatible and this has brought it to a head you need to consider if this is a dealbreaker for you.

If she's pregnant she probably just needs some support while her body is changing where she doesn't feel pressured. I know I did.

It depends where you are in your relationship. In the fun early days a few times a week to once a week is probably normal. If you’ve been together a long time or have children, once or twice a month. If you have very small children and lots of other things going on, it can easily stretch to every month or two depending on if you are both home and not exhausted and feeling well enough on the same days.

And yes, it’s not unusual for people not be able to express what they want. We are socially conditioned to not talk about sex, women in particular often are told their wants or desires are important. Some people just aren’t assertive in general. And some people don’t express what they ‘want’ because they are tired and stressed and don’t want anything but worry about the repercussions with a partner if they do.