Feel awful, keep dreaming about OM

[JumpingThroughHoopss]

I feel really guilty because I keep dreaming about someone I used to know.

Good friends through school, college and then into young adulthood. At the time I'd say we had quite an intense connection (as much as can be for teenagers) and I know our friends at the time were confused as to why we were never together.

However, I've not seen or spoken to him since before I met DH.

I love H more than anything, have never cheated, spoken to another man in that sort of way at all, and wouldn't consider it either.

But for some reason I keep dreaming about this person! And I then wake up feeling incredibly guilty! In my waking hours I actually don't think about them at all so I'm unsure as to why subconsciously I obviously am!

You have nothing to feel bad about, it’s just a dream. You’ve not done anything wrong. I’ve had weird sex dreams about the strangest of people, DH and I laugh about it

Don't feel guilty, you're not doing it on purpose and despite all of the silly things you'll read online, dreams don't mean anything! I regularly dream about my first ever boyfriend who I haven't seen for 20 years. It doesn't mean anything other than the fact that he was significant to me once upon a time. Like dreaming of the house I grew up in. It doesn't mean I want to live there now!

There have been some fabulous threads on here about celebrity sex dreams and the need to brain bleach afterwards. You might want to look at some of those to cheer yourself up. The Donald Trump one was hilarious. Brains are weird - don't beat yourself up about a dream!

Ps if you're looking for a reason why it's most likely your brain remembering the intense connection, rather than it having anything to do with the person. That's my theory for why I dream about my old boyfriend - first love connection is intense and different to a mature, solid, stable (and far better) marriage.

Thanks! I guess it's because of the frequency I feel bad. It's almost nightly at the moment!

But then I think because I'm conscious of it and feeling bad about it I'm probably more likely to dream about it!

Because you are fretting about it, it’s in your mind so you are more likely to dream about him. I had a worrying dream about Prince Andrew the other night - must remember not to watch the news before bed.
Try to put it out of your mind and focus on happy memories with your OH. It will pas

They’re just dreams. Stop focusing on them and giving power to them. Just get on with your day and distract when thoughts come up. It’s only a big thing if you want it to be..