I don’t know what to do or where to go

[Jos12]

Well this is a hard thing to write I ended my 10 year marriage at the beginning of the year. I’m still in the marital home with my two daughters.

My ex was and still is controlling....not long after we separated we slept together which was a mistake! He came around again a week later I refused to sleep with him and said no but he penetrated me anyway......He said that because I slept with him the week before that no one will believe me.

This past few months his behaviour towards me has become worse his parents live opposite and he knows my every move.

I took two days off work last week and he messaged me demanding to know why I wasn’t at work. He has a girlfriend and we are separated so this is none of his business.

I feel trapped and that my every move is being monitored I can’t eat and can’t sleep I can’t leave as there are no houses available from the local council.

My mental health is suffering and I don’t know where to go or who to turn too.

That sounds awful!

What he is doing is stalking. I saw this stalking helpline recommended on another thread www.suzylamplugh.org/Pages/Category/national-stalking-helpline

And it sounds like you know that he raped you. It may be that you wouldn’t get much joy from reporting to the police, but there rape crisis phone services that you could talkt to.

I’ll see if I can find a link.

Try this organisation rapecrisis.org.uk/

You need emotional support as well as legal advice.

So sorry this is happening to you. Could you move further away, to another local council?

I think it will be worth contacting police about the stalking, and get themto have a word with your ex. After I split from mycontrolling ex, he bombarded me letters (obviously what you are going through is harder), but the police took me seriously, and got my ex to stop. I think procedure is to inform the stalker of what constitutes harassment, and make it clear that if they don’t stop, they will be breaking the law.

I thought by ending the marriage I would be free as I used to have to call and message him constantly even emailing him from my work email so he knew I was there.....but I feel worse now than o did when we were together

Talk to the police and they may send someone over to talk to him. From now on, don't listen to anything he says. Just ignore it. He can ask away but you don't need to answer him and if his parents don't have anything better to do than to watch your comings and goings then what pathetic lives they must lead.

Dear God, you poor woman. Report him to Police, DON'T ever be alone with him or let him in the house. I'd also tell his spying parents that their delightful son raped you. Stay safe please and get help