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[Miserables]

I have been married (2nd time) 34 years, I am a fit active young at heart 77year Old. I love life, travelling & socialising.
My problem is my husband doesn’t want to do any of these things, he is quite happy & content pottering about at home.
The thing that hurts most - he Never shows me ANY affection! I have practically begged him to show me some.I am a very loving person & I hate living like this. Should I look for someone to give me what I need (I’m not talking about sex) I want someone to enjoy life with, to hold me hug me, I really don’t want to divorce, I’m asking should I have an affair I suppose,

How old is your husband? Is he fit and healthy?

Yes he is

Leave him or stay with him don’t cheat - why ultimately choose to cause him yourself and an other person pain. Has he always been like this?

Has he always been this way?

Do you have pets ?

What are you getting out of this relationship now?

What have you got against divorce?

An affair is not the answer here. Your choices are really stay or leave.

I agree with the others. Even if you have some sort of affair (emotional of otherwise), how is that going to improve your marriage? Like the others have said, if its that bad then go your separate ways. Maybe he will buck up his ideas if you threaten to leave him.
You don't have to live like this, whatever you age or situation.

Find a friend. If everything else with fine with him don't divorce him because you don't share the same interests. You don't need him to join you in what you want to do for you to have a good time. Yes that is the ideal but not everyone is matched in terms of hobbies. It wouldn't be fair for him to ask you to stay at home with him. So keep doing the things you love either by yourself or with a friend 😊

Sorry just saw that he doesn't show you affection either. My answer would be don't have an affair. Decide if you want to stay or not. If stay then give the book "5 love languages" a read. Maybe you can read it together 😊

Can't you just enjoy your social life and let him get on with his pottering? If you want affection, get a dog. (That's a genuine suggestion, not a sarcastic one).

You only get one life, you should be enjoying life, especially in your retirement.

OP, please ignore the misguided advice to get a pet. FFS! (I'm wondering if you'd get the same advice if you were 30 years younger, tbh; it feels patronisingly ageist.)

If physical affection and an active social life are what you need, then I would consider ending your relationship and finding someone more like you. You only have one life, and it's never worth compromising.

Have you talked to him ?
If it is a no , then divorce .

Do you have friends who want to do the same things as you do?
If this relationship is not working for you then end it.
Do NOT cheat.
It won't any of this go away and it certainly won't make you feel any better.
There must be single older women out there who have lost husbands who want a friend to do things with???

Don’t have an affair.

No you shouldn't have an affair.
Has he ever been affectionate?
What happens if you instigate?

Try to amicably divorce. Failing that divorce anyway. Life is sterile without affection. I left my ex because there was no affection,

Don’t have an affair. Stay and make it work or leave and get divorced.