First Date

[Tris44]

I’m embarrassed to say this but I’m in my late 20s and have never been on a date. I met my last boyfriend when I was at school.

I’m going on my first ever date tonight, I’m really nervous. Has anyone got any tips? What should we talk about? I’m so clueless!

How exciting. I know its nerve wracking. I've been on quite a few dates in my time but I still get a bit nervous.
Do you already know him or did you meet him online? If you've been chatting to him for a while then you should know a little about him so that should help with the conversation. I've never had an issue with chatting on dates although usually cos the bloke never shuts up (that can be nerves).
Just try to be relaxed and don't plan what you will talk about, just let it flow naturally. Hopefully if he is easy to talk to he will keep the conversation going anyway.
GOOD LUCK and ENJOY.

Thanks Crappyday, I met him online so we’ve already spoke about the basics, hopefully the conversation will flow. I keep telling myself that even if it’s terrible it’s only a couple of hours of my life.

Think of maybe four things you can chat about in advance.

Really simple stuff like what you might chat over when taking a trip to the hairdresser.

What's the best place you've ever been on holiday? Why? How long ago was that? Where's next on the list?

What's the last thing you saw at the cinema? Last book you read? What's the best thing about your job? Cats or dogs? Can you dance? Ski? Fish?...

And good luck!!! Let us know how it goes!

What is the worst that could happen? You don't fancy him/no spark but just try to enjoy the company anyway. If the conversation is difficult and its becoming awkward, just have a 'get out clause' e.g. up early in the morning so can't stay out late. I can usually use 'babysitter' or 'getting up early' as my excuses.
I'm sure this won't happen. I've had a couple of dates where I've just not fancied them but we've gotten on well and I've still enjoyed the night.
Where are you meeting?

We’re going out for a meal, so it makes it harder to leave early especially if the service is slow! I was hoping to do drinks for a first date but he really wanted to go for a meal.

What do you talk about?

Well all the things you normally talk about when you first meet people. Their life, their work, their family, their interests, their hobbies. Current affairs, TV programmes, sport, travel, likes and dislikes, hopes and dreams,

If you were more comfortable with drinks you should have insisted. I would find a meal a bit much for a first date. You can still change the plans if you want to. Message him and say you would prefer a few drinks rather than a meal for your first date.

Don`t mention Brexit/religion/politics in general.
Have a great night.

Haha yeah I agree with @KUGA probably best to avoid anything heavy.

Relax OP dating is just getting to know someone ...good luck, and can you report back?

Thanks everyone, I’m getting ready now. I’ll let you know how it goes

We’re planning a second date 😊

Kerching.

YAY!!!! All that worrying for nothing. How did it go? Did you have lots to talk about?

yay!!!! very please for you OP...so I assume conversation flowed?