I think he's bored of me

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I will tell DP about something that's happened to me today. He listens and then as soon as I've finished, doesn't reply and jumps up and says he has to do something. It makes me feel like he's just waited for a gap in my speech to go off and do something else. I feel like I bore him.

Do you also ask him about his day? And give him as much time as you ask to talk about it?

Yes I think so. I'll try to do more.

Maybe he's just rude.
Maybe your stories are dull.
Maybe he is a selfish ass. Does he act selfish in any other ways?

I find what you really have to watch out for are people who make you feel you need to 'Hurry up' with your turn to talk because they want to talk. But because they have 'something else (better/'more important') to do' could be the same thing. It can point towards them being highly narcissistic.

Symptomatic of the war on women/people waged by the patriarchy/bastards in general.

Nothing you do could possibly be of any importance, since you lack a penis. If indeed you do. I admit, it's a bit of an assumption.

If my stories are dull then I'm probably the wrong woman for him. Not everyone would find me dull

I can confirm that I lack a penis.

No one ever had as exhausting or stressful a day as my ex husband, who worked from home most of the time, got up hours after I’d gone to work and watched a lot of films around jobs. Every day I’d get in and before I took my shoes off and sat down he’d rattle off everything that had happened to him - nothing was ever his fault, his colleagues were bastards, it was all so terribly unfair. If I tried to change the subject he’d carry on as if I hadn’t spoken and it wasn’t worth causing a row so I’d sit there planning dinner in my head with a blank smile of a polite nod and wait for him to finish up.

I'm sure no one would find you dull if they fancy you. So if he really is acting like he finds you that way - get shot.

But if its more like he is making you feel like you are dull - that's more worrying. And & still, get shot of him xD

I think you're projecting a little, Anne. That sounds traumatic.

He definitely fancies me..I think he's just not that interested in what I have to say.

I used to work in a very male environment and I noticed some men were like this with the few women who worked there. It is indeed because you don't own the magic penis that makes you worth listening to.

Well is it a monologue or a chat?

Not projecting at all, merely explaining a past experience. If you’re unhappy with your dynamic then see what you can change.

It's not a chat because he doesn't answer questions.

I have to confess that I get a bit bored with dh s work drama stories at times.
They are full of people I don’t know, abbreviations and jargon I don’t get and often refer back to previous long stories I don’t remember.
I get he has to let off steam, but it doesn’t feel like we connect well when he does this. I mean I listen, but occasionally I say I can’t listen any more, or I try to make it more a conversation than a monologue.

I can confirm that I lack a penis
Thought so. Penis-owners show far more respect for each other than they do for those of us who only have clitorises.

My ex was like this - current DP is getting more like this though with him it’s if he’s looking at his phone - he just says ‘I’m trying to look at this’ - the same thing is going to happen as it did with ex I just won’t talk to him and we’ll grow apart.

My exh was like this unless it was a piece of gossip that he could run with then his eyes lit up. He only showed any interest in me after we split up when amazingly he wanted to know every little thing.

I think it’s just rudeness and impatience and a sense of superiority .