Would you stay friends with a man if you thought they might see you romantically

[jewel1968]

Would you stay friends with a man when others told you they suspected he had a crush on you. Assuming you weren't interested romantically in them. Said man has never made a move or said anything that would suggest this were true.

I am usually good at picking up this type of vibe but am not picking vibe up here. The only thing that bugs me is that 3 unrelated people have said the same thing. If they were right surely I would have picked up on it? All they have done is make me hyper aware now.

No, because it makes me extremely uncomfortable. I couldn't have a friendship with someone if either of us had romantic feelings, it just wouldn't work.

So you would accept your friends assessment even if you didn't pick up on it?

I agree a friendship where one has romantic feelings is doomed but not sure he has.

No I wouldn't just accept that, maybe ask him? The reason I couldn't continue the friendship is because it would feel awkward, but if he's giving no signs then it doesn't need to be awkward. I would ask him if I were you, some friends can 'play cupid' if you know what I mean.

Also some people can be childish and think that if a male and female are friends then one of them must have feelings for the other.

I've a close friend who has feelings for me, he knows nothing is ever going to happen. We've been friends for twenty years, and he's had feelings for pretty much the whole time.

It can work as long as you're both honest. It won't work if one of you is holding out for something more.

I would trust my own perception of things but...three unrelated people saying they thought he did (by the way he was acting) might make me pay more attention incase I was missing something.

I wouldn't stay friends with someone who fancied me though. Because...well, they aren't your friend, they are someone who fancies you lol.

Play Cupid - yes I thought that but didn't know it had a name. I am quite shy (although nobody believes that as I present like an extrovert) so it makes me a bit nervous. I cancelled a couple of meet ups because of it.

If you don't get a vibe about it I wouldn't turn it into a problem. When men have been interested in me in the past when I was single I would just be the opposite of flirty - tell them about anyone I'm dating or fancy, be open about bodily functions etc. Sounds crude but it usually sends a message. If it's a problem he'll make it a problem with what he says.

Yes I have deffo paid more attention.

I would be honest with him about what people are saying, ask him if there's any truth in it and then see how you feel after that?

Because...well, they aren't your friend, they are someone who fancies you lol.

That makes no sense. A person doesn't stop being your friend just because they fancy you.

Gosh I would feel very awkward telling him - maybe as a joke I could. I do wonder if their observations come from the belief that men and women can't be friends.