House move

[Missmysleep83]

Hi, just wondering what you all think of this situation and what you would do please. My husband and I bought our first home just under 11 months ago. It was in an area we knew little about but knew was desirable.

We went for a drive one day, saw a beautiful house for sale, one which ticked all the boxes. Viewed it the next day, made an offer two days later accepted. That quick. Things were okay for a couple of months as I think I was in a bubble with my new house. I now hate where we live. It’s half hour/40 mind drive to anywhere like shopping centres etc and also my family and friends. It takes me an hour to get to work and an hour to get back. The thought of my little boy being in a school up here so far from me when I’m working feels me with dread. I just want to move back. Or at least closer. I spend NO time in my new town as I’m always commuting. And there’s not much to do here anyway! I can’t jack my job in as I love it and can’t afford to financially. My husband is not happy about me wanting to move as he loves the area. It’s making me so down. He doesn’t want to entertain commiting to a time when we can look to move. But I literally dread coming home now. :(

Well how about trying to get involved in your local community though actually when your son starts school you’ll get to know lots of people. We moved to a new area for my DPs work and knew no one but our DS started school a few months later and we have lots of friends locally. You have to give it time.

Yeah I agree, he’s only two at the moment so won’t be going to school for a couple of years, he is currently in his old nursery still as he is very content there.

Slightly different scenario but me and my DH relocated some years back to be closer to an elderly and ill parent. I was really sad at the time. I left my amazing friends and job and was close to a significant career progression. We moved to an area which was lovely and where property prices were a lot cheaper than where we had moved from — perfect for our growing family. Now that my children are in school and have established friendships I will not consider moving them and disrupting things. Through my children’s school I have made new friendships with lovely people. The pace of life is fab. I managed to get work very local to my children’s school and my life mainly revolves around them. I’m too busy to see wider family during the week and so we catch up on weekends. Could you try to find a job closer to home perhaps?

I should probably add we didn’t consider the financial implications: I pay £200+ in fuel per month, I can’t afford to change as it’s a very well paid job and they are flexible with my childcare. My son is not due to start school for two years and I can’t get involved in local community as I’m usually either at work or get back late. Weekends are usually is running here there everywhere.

I felt like this, we couldn't afford to buy in the town we grew up in so moved to another one. I hated it, DP loved it and I spent nearly all my time in our old town. I've been starting to take small steps towards liking the new town, I go and explore a bit more, met some people, found things I like and its feeling more bearable

Do you feel more settled now? I’ve moved from a town to a village as well so I’m finding it really quiet from what I’m used to. X

May I suggest you could...
Look at buying a hybrid or electric car (so much cheaper to run. And cheaper than moving! 😉
Commit to listening to stories or learning a new language on the drive (you won’t feel like it everyday but that’s okay
Commit to one evening a week doing something in the local community, join a choir? Art class? Anything to bed you in locally.
Every Sunday go for a walk locally.
Do your shopping online and have it delivered on a weekday evening
Change your mindset...if this was your dc you’d probably be saying ‘this is an adventure’ which it is!