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Anyone else have irritating MIL issues? I'm a new dad. As a person, my MIL is great (I don't dislike her at all) but we've just had a kid and my MIL simply cannot see past her own desire to spend long amounts of time with our new baby. Way more than everyone else gets to.

Everyone else on both sides of the family give us our space but she is always finding excuses to see the baby and when she does, suffocates her with constant kissing and cuddling. I've been trying for months to just live with it now but I really don't want the baby to get needy and MIL spends 2-3 days around her a week whereas my side of the family (and her side bar MIL) only get a couple hours a week (which they're satisfied with as they appreciate the visit/ time.

WHAT CAN I DO TO STOP GETTING SO IRRITATED BY THIS!?

Bare in mind my partner and I have spoken about this and it's starting to wear down on us.

Share your ideas or you're more than welcomed to jump on the thread and have a rant!

You need to put boundaries in place.
You need to do this with your DP.
You need to tackle this together.
You do NOT have to put up with it so stop doing it.
Discuss with your DP what you both find acceptable and tell her.
You are adults and you have a baby now.
So take back control and stop allowing her to trounce all over your boundaries.

Does your partner mind her mother being there?

Baby won't get needy by being cuddled a lot. 🤦

Presumably you're at work and this is your other half spending time with her mother? If you're not there, how much of an issue is it to you really?

I really don't want the baby to get needy

Sorry but what?

I was with you OP until you said about the baby getting 'needy'. They're supposed to be, they're babies!!!!!! You can't cuddle a baby too much. Please stop that train of thought.

Other than that, if you and your DP are in agreement, you just need to tell MIL that she needs to cut down on the visits.

Baby’s need love and affection, they get this by being cuddled. NO baby is made needy by being loved and cuddled 🙄

Your mil doesn’t sound awful. The novelty will probably wear off soon anyway.:

Does your partner enjoy her mother being there?

Ask her mother, or get your wife to ask her, to telephone before coming round because there may be plans for the day in place. Then either don't answer the phone or pretend you're going somewhere or are having other visitors.

The three of you need some time to yourselves in private.

Isn’t it funny that’s as the comments have been made by a man there’s no issue for some posters about mil! Had it been woman posting all hell would be breaking loose.

Op just set some boundaries, ones your dp will most likely have to enforce and cut down on the visits

Hey all,

Ok, needy probably the wrong assumption- what I mean is the baby is a few months old new and likes their space. MIL doesn't like to put DC down and instead will cuddle and smother until the baby is taken.

Often MIL will interrupt play to take and cuddle.

To her credit, she only came unannounced once but we nipped that in the bud and she doesn't do this anymore. She is far from a monster- just irritatingly selfish given everyone else would love to spend more time but respects our space.

My partner gets irritated but understandably, it's her mum and luckily for me, she does understand where I am coming from- just doesn't like to say no or disappoint her mum.

but I really don't want the baby to get needy

What does this even mean?

An example of needy in our definition is not being able to put her down or settle her because she has over indulged on attention. Many may not get what I mean but we see it. Needy definitely the wrong word

My mil used to rock the pram the entire nap length!! Told her to stop as did she think I had time to do that?
Speak up op!!
She offered to do our ironing but complained if the dc had clean stuff on as she had more to iron!
We got an ironing lady in!!
Made her even madder!
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