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What’s the best dating site for a single mum in her early 40s?

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RitaIsMyHero · 27/09/2019 10:42

Not sure if I can face Tinder and I haven’t OLD since I was early 30s when it was match.com.

I’m a professional, post grad educated single mum (1 DD). Made a shitty relationship choice, so here I am. Would like someone on my level to date and talk to.

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whatwasthis1 · 27/09/2019 10:45

I would try to get friends to hook you up, from stories from friends, OLD attracts lots of undesirable men.

hellsbellsmelons · 27/09/2019 10:52

I met a few people on Tinder.
All OK to be fair.
I'm just too happy being single.
Lumen looks quite good but I've never tried it.
But I think that is over 50's
Elite singles might work for you.
Eharmony???

WishICouldThinkOfAGoodName · 27/09/2019 11:13

Elite Singes is good, but there is a fee. Worth it for me as I met some really nice men on there. All respectful and well educated. I’m a similar age etc to you OP.

Joy69 · 27/09/2019 11:43

I have met a nice man on Ok Cupid, went for a date with someone else from there too. He was also nice, but not for me.
Obviously a few people that wouldn't be your type on there, but that's life. I put no Ons or fwb on my profile. Also went into with the mindset of keeping things light hearted & a way of socialising so that I wouldn't be disappointed if it went pear shaped.
You have to pay to message if you're a man , but once they've messaged you can reply for free.
Have fun Smile

Sunshineandflipflops · 27/09/2019 11:57

I've met nice men on Bumble, Tinder and Match. To be honest, I think a lot of people use multiple sites so I don't think you necessarily get a 'different class' of men on one as opposed to another.

I am also early 40's, post grad, professional but I wouldn't let that put me off using any of the sites as there are all kinds of people on them and some you can filter by level of education if that's what is important to you.

Jennifer2r · 27/09/2019 17:45

I really like bumble, it's a good way to ease yourself in

runoutofnamechanges · 27/09/2019 17:54

Guardian Soulmates. I think paid for sites seem to be slightly better than the free ones.

Original poster
RitaIsMyHero · 28/09/2019 19:24

Thank you. Quite a variety there!

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nwales1978 · 29/09/2019 23:00

I was on bumble but a lot of fake profiles on there (say they are a 45 year old accountant but write like a 14 year old boy). I joined POF and matched with a guy who lives in my village . I’d seen him around before but I’d assumed he was married. Appears not ;-). Don’t rule out POF and tinder as there are so many people on there

ooooohbetty · 29/09/2019 23:03

Pof. Wade through the weirdos and there are some nice men on there.

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