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Was she sexually abused?

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Mermaidtissues · 26/09/2019 21:22

My younger sibling, who is very difficult in adulthood, was very troubled as a child and teenager and non contact with most of the family behaved strangely towards me as a child.

I’ve doubted myself terribly and feel like a failure as our relationship has broken down (again) but I now wonder if she may have have been abused.

I don’t know how to describe this sensitively but she touched me intimately when we were young and used a word to describe it that I’ve never heard before or since.

If this abuse happened I knew nothing of it, we are estranged currently but this could explain a lot if true. Not sure if knowing this would lead to the possibility of a healthy sibling relationship that I crave.

Is there anything that I can do or say to help in anyway, this sibling seems to be happy not liking me

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Pinkbonbon · 26/09/2019 21:28

I think jumping to 'she was abused' because she is odd and unsocial/uncaring with family is a bit much of a stretch.

Maybe she was. Maybe she has some sort of personality disorders maybe she suffers some mental health issues. Maybe she's just a bit of a cow.

Either way, sounds like you might be better off without her... drama.

Contraceptionismyfriend · 26/09/2019 21:29

The incident you describe would be an indicator that abuse had taken place.

However. It's not a guarantee and you were also a child by the sounds of it.
You were innocent and you shouldn't carry any guilt for your relationship.

Mermaidtissues · 26/09/2019 21:46

I wonder if there is a deep rooted hatred for me because it didn’t happen to me nor did I know.

I was very young.

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Contraceptionismyfriend · 26/09/2019 21:58

That's a lot of mental gymnastics. It's must be stressful. But sometimes even though people are related doesn't mean they have to get on.

GilbertMarkham · 26/09/2019 21:58

It sounds suspect to me (as a non professional). Can you open the lines of communication with her and try to broach it.

GilbertMarkham · 26/09/2019 21:59

*Maybe she was. ...

Either way, sounds like you might be better off without her... drama.*

Lovely.

Mermaidtissues · 26/09/2019 22:06

She not talking to me currently, not sure why. So raising it isn’t an option currently.

This latest no contact, with no actual argument or knowledge of why (once again) has left me questioning our childhood, made me doubt myself horribly and brings me back to this horrible niggle that she was abused maybe.

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meccacos2 · 28/09/2019 18:50

She abused you... it’s safe to say she learned that behaviour somewhere.

She sounds very unbalanced OP.

Do you think it might be healthiest not to have anything to do with her?

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