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I’m scared to kiss

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Henriettasdoor · 26/09/2019 18:01

Let alone do anything else!

For context, I have been in relationships in the past and had a lot of sex in them. My last relationship ended a year ago ish and I’ve not so much as kissed anyone since!

I’m definitely into men and the dates I’ve had (there’s been quite a few) have all been leading up to kissing territory and a few times i have actually turned away! This is despite the fact I wouldn’t mind kissing them.

I’ve not felt an overwhelming desire to kiss anyone so far but I have definitely felt like a kiss and wished I had just gone for it. What’s wrong with me? I’m in my mid thirties and this is bothering me.

When I’m in relationships or even when I’ve first kissed someone I am dating, I am fully prepared to kiss again and have no concerns about it. It’s jist that initial kiss and I am sure I’ve left good men pass me by because they just end up thinking I’m not interested. We have a great few nights out and then I turn away for a kiss!

I’m not shy either really but I do find the initial contact very awkward and now I’m older it’s got worse. Any advice?!

OP posts:
Henriettasdoor · 26/09/2019 18:02

*let good men

OP posts:
Henriettasdoor · 26/09/2019 18:06

Just to add that in my twenties and early thirties I wouldn’t have thought twice about getting in there for a snog! I always found it a bit awkward but it never stopped me.

I don’t know why this has suddenly happened

OP posts:
Henriettasdoor · 26/09/2019 19:43

Anyone?

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wheresthehope · 26/09/2019 20:05

I am actually the same.. I love kissing but that first kiss freaks me out.
I’ve now been with my DP for nearly 3 years and we have gotten into a habit of just a kiss on lips rather than a good make out session. I regret that but i don’t know how to change it if you know what I mean!
Your not alone OP!

Henriettasdoor · 26/09/2019 20:07

I just wish I could kiss someone and get over it! I love it so I’m not sure what’s stopping me really. I think it’s becoming a barrier to new relationships too. We have a nice time and then I just turn away from any intimacy even a kiss

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wheresthehope · 26/09/2019 20:48

In my younger years (37now) I use to party pretty hard and it was nothing to be out dancing and have random snog on the dance floor! I do miss those days Grin

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