Ok so please bear with me on this it's quite long winded.
So myself and my childs dad were together on and off for 8 years or so. We had DD in 2016 and split shortly after but continued to live together - he wanted to keep up the charade of happy families. He was abusive etc etc so keep things on an even keel for time being I agreed to this. Jan 2018 I said I wanted to make it official to everyone we weren't a couple etc etc. He then moved out in March.
I got talking to an old friend, had a slight romantic past with him. Went on a few dates etc and things were going well. To cut a long story short ex has never been fond of my partner. So he wasn't too happy - made all sorts of threats etc etc police had to then be involved.
DP proposed in January and were getting married in October. This may seem fast but we've known each other 9 years and always been in each others lives. Daughters dad kicked off majorly when he found out etc etc.
But the last few months his family have been snooping on Facebook and other social media accounts of my friends and family. We only know this as there's been a few instances where they have accidently either sent a friends request or liked something. Not that anything is really posted publicly anyways but still they're trying to snoop none the less.
My question is what on earth do I do? I don't want him trying to find out every movement of my life. I constantly feel sick with anxiety and just waiting on the next bad thing to happen. I feel like I'm being ridiculous 99% of the time for still worrying. I went on my hen night the other night, DD was going to stay at her dad's and I was worried because I had fake tan on that he might say something?!?
How do I get passed this? And why do his family feel the need to try snoop??