After some serious help and advice

[Proudmommy25]

So me and my partner have been together nearly 5 years and have 2 beautiful children. Problem is I honestly don't think my partner realises this. He's so uninterested in everything 😔
He works nights Monday to Thursday so I get he's tired but he literally sleeps all day until getting up having tea and going back to work..spending around 10 minutes with the girls and in that time he's too busy on his phone all the time. He's not really any better on weekends..lying in bed till stupid times and not spending time with them. Now I know he's going out to work but I do literally everything else..I mean everything he doesn't lift a finger! He doesn't seem to see what he has around him and how lucky I think he is. I have a go and moan constantly but he just doesn't care 😞
AIBU what on earth is going on with him?

I did 2 years of 9 hour night shifts, 3 to 4 nights a week. I was an absolute zombie, constantly grumpy and exhausted.

My ex did 2 years or so of 12 hour night shift and was the same....

Night shift suits some people and not others. Can he do days?

What's 'going on' with him is that he's a selfish arse who has replaced his mother with you - and you've let him get away with it.

Tell him to shape up or ship out and stop providing any household services for him such as cooking/cleaning. If he manages to find time in his non busy schedule to have sex with you I'd knock that on the head too, and make it clear that a lazy man who can't even be bothered to engage with his own dc is not a turn on.

As he's about as much use as a chocolate teapot. I don't understand why you've tolerated his uselessness for so long.

we have a simular set up....been married 10yrs,3 children (4th on the way) and hubby works 12hr night shifts sunday-wednesday.....he gets home at around 7am we have a quick cuppa together then he goes up to bed,wakes at around 2pm and he has an hour with me and our youngest before either he or i pick our other 2 up from school....and we have dinner,afternoon and put kids to bed together as well as a couple of hours just me and hubby before he leaves for work. I see it as when he's working....I'm working...and then when we're both here together the load is shared 50/50! hope things improve for you,maybe a bit of change is needed or maybe he could swap to days if it really doesn't suit you both x

"He's so uninterested in everything 😔"
Depression?

spending around 10 minutes with the girls and in that time he's too busy on his phone all the time

Not too depressed to play with his phone when he should be engaging with his dc idontwanttotalk