Hi I’m so worried about my best friend, I’ve known her since we were kids.
It’s quite complicated so will try to be clear as I can. Her and her husband have a 9 year old and a 5 year old. They’ve been together for 12 years and married for 6 and the past 2 years or so she’s confided in me about a few things that are concerning.
He loses his temper really easily, he will snap at the children and call them names, he always regrets it after but does it again and again, he doesn’t seem to be able to cope with them. This is so alarming to me and I think abusive.
Financially, they have separate accounts, she works and earns a lot less than him and struggles, but she has to ask him for money quite often. I don’t know if this is financial abuse? Maybe not. I just know he has money but keeps a lot of it to himself and she is often without.
A few months ago they decided that to try and help things, they’d try an ‘open relationship’ type thing, just one way though. He said he doesn’t want to meet anyone but he’d like her to have a fling with a woman and tell him about it. I should add she’s bisexual and had brief relationships with women in the past.
She’s been on a few dates but nothing has happened, however she’s recently started chatting to a woman who lives about 60 miles away and they’ve met up. My friend has told me theyve got feelings for each other, however her husband is not happy about the arrangement now and is getting increasingly angry about it.
I guess I’m making the thread because things are getting worse between them and my friend is in turmoil. She said her husband is calling her horrible names, begging her for sex, throwing things, demanding attention and generally acting very erratic.
I’m not sure how to help her! Any advice is greatly welcomed.