Dating again after a long break after abusive relationships. Had therapy and feel ready to try again.
I’ve been dating a wonderful guy for the past month. He’s sweet, kind, considerate, we talk every day and he seems perfect.
My only concern is he’s been quite full on, wanting to be exclusive and talking about having strong feelings for me already. I said I need him to slow down and he agreed, but we’ve agreed to be exclusive and not talk to or date anyone else.
Yesterday we were texting and he had to go, saying “I loved hearing your voice today”.
I replied with confusion as we hadn’t spoken or sent any voice messages.
He made a joke saying he meant he was sad I hadn’t sent him a voice message. 🤷♀️
This didn’t make sense so I asked if he had sent that message to me by mistake and meant to send it to someone else?
He replied with some ‘jokey’ texts about having so many women on the go but I’m the only one he really wants.
I was fuming and felt that he had been talking to someone else and had made a mistake sending me that message. We talked about it later on and he said he just used the wrong words, and meant it was nice to talk to me (by text), and used the wrong words saying nice to hear my voice instead. And that he now realises joking about it after was the wrong thing to do, but that he isn’t talking to anyone else.
My gut tells me he is lying. His explanation just doesn’t add up for me. But do I really throw this otherwise wonderful guy away for potentially simply using the wrong words??? Am I stil hurting from being cheated on in the past and assuming he will do the same? Or does his explanation sound reasonable to anyone else?
I’d be interested in other opinions please 🙏