Does living separately work??

[Em1ly27]

So my partner and I have been together for nearly 2 years he moved in after about 10 months. Long story short we have been through so much over our time together. We bicker constantly over nothing. I have a child who lives with me and his children come every weekend to stay. There never really is any us time at all, so after this last row he has put it forward that maybe he should move out and get his own place for a bit and thinks that we will know one way or the other if we can get through our rough times or not. Truth is I'm scared what happens if he moves out and I still want to be with him and he doesnt me or even vice versa. Please help me I just dont know what to do??

I would say you need to talk about things that are bothering you and. It’s make a conscious effort to make things better. Me and my dp were like this, we would bump heads and both are so stubborn neither one would give in and it would be w harsh atmosphere and of course things start escalating and I did eventually move out for 6 months because o just couldn’t take it. A lot of stuff happened inbetween but we are now back together and are looking forward to moving into our new house this weekend.

But I’d say the key is compromise. For example, if he wants to go out on the piss after work but you want to do something the next day then the compromise is he goes out with his friends and needs to be back for X o’clock so you can still make the plans. Treating each other like they don’t matter will only create bad feelings and will land you right back at square one.

Sometimes a clean break is the best but I’d say let him go and if you can resolve your issues then great. But if not then the relationship has run it’s course.

Best of luck x