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confused, was i being a drama queen all along?

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dramallama2 · 25/09/2019 12:03

I have thought for the past year that i have been in an emotional abusive relationship, He was accusing me of cheating all day every day, controlling me etc etc.
If i tried to leave threats of suicide, violent outbursts at neighbours/strangers for no reason.
I have took him to mental health access team a few times and they finally referred him to a psychiatrist.
He has been seeing the psychiatrist for a few months now, they are going through diagnosing him with what they think is multiple personality disorders.
They prescribed him aripiprazole and he has actually started 'improving'.
When i say improving i mean he's just not being as verbal to me so rather than saying out loud his thoughts he's learning to control them and dismiss the thoughts he's having.
Although still at least once a day he will say something derogatory to me and make me feel shit.
But he will say 'i'm getting better though', i hardly say anything anymore.
Yet i will wear a dress and he will say 'why are you half naked' and not say anything when i get changed.
When i say do you not want to be with me because your pushing me away he says something like i do want to be with you but i'm sick of sharing you!
I'm going insane i feel like he's changed a lot the past 2 weeks he has improved with not saying as much to me and his psychiatrist says that i'm very supportive and not going anywhere so that makes me feel bad.
I don't know what i want from this post to be honest just a listening ear i suppose.

OP posts:
SouthernComforts · 25/09/2019 13:37

Why not break up, then arrange counselling for yourself. You don't have to put up with this for another minute.

KatharinaRosalie · 25/09/2019 13:43

He felt his hold over you was slipping and you were seeing that this is not normal behaviour.

dramallama2 · 25/09/2019 13:45

i know your all right, thank you for opening up my eyes

OP posts:
FinallyHere · 25/09/2019 13:51

Well done @dramallama2

Your life will be so much better without him.

Might be worth looking at the https://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

G5000 · 25/09/2019 13:52

OP, do you know how often my DH says something derogatory to make me feel like shit?
Never. We've been married 10 years. And that's not some super duper exceptional relationship, that's just normal. Being made to feel like shit every single day by the person who is supposed to love you (and that's the new, improved version) is not something you should endure for the rest of your life.

AngusThermopyle · 25/09/2019 16:17

Oh lovely this all sounds utterly soul destroying, imagine all this, every day, for next 40-50 years. 8 years is nothing in comparison. My advice would be to have your counselling and work on leaving. There's so much more to life & happiness than this.

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