getting over insecurity

[crochetmonkey74]

Has anyone managed this and how did you do it?
I was in a terrible relationship (controlling/ distant/ affairs/ open disdain for me at times) for years after a very traumatic childhood with a similar father.
I was on my own for many years then met DP who is a totally decent lovely man. Most of the time I am fine but occasionally, I am stricken with the absolute certainty he will fall in love with someone else and leave. It bears no scrutiny at all- it isn't rooted in anything he does - he is unendingly supportive. Have tried CBT and that worked sort of and some days are better than others- but sometimes it's crippling and makes me really anxious. Has anyone had this and got over it/ learned how to cope?

I’m still working on it but it does get better. The first bit if advice that comes to me is to sit down and explain all this to him. Ask him to be patient with you and help you through it. When you have a fear or doubt arise, be honest and admit it to him. Talk about it. I think insecurity is something that takes time to heal, and lots of work x

Thank you Cherry I will talk to him definitely- I agree about the time and healing

It's hard. . I was feeling really happy this morning with my make up and what I was wearing. I went shopping and came home feeling like shit. Everyone else seems so glamorous these days. I don't know where they get the money or time.