My friends almost never instigate catchups

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I've been thinking about this for a while now. I've noticed for quite some time that it is mostly a one way street when organising catch ups. I have recently become quite down about it and am questioning some of my friendships. I decided to see if I stopped organising and instigating things whether they would maintain contact. You guessed it, most of them I haven't heard from in months. I feel sad about it, but also feel like I don't want to chase friendships if they aren't interested. Am I being too sensitive? I don't think a text to say "lets go for a coffee" every now and then is too much to ask. What do you think? TIA :)

I don't mind being the organiser 75% of the time, but it would be nice to get the odd text or phonecall during an extremely tough year. Surely that's not expecting too much?

No its not, I'd say they are not really friends if they cant be arsed even sending a text if your struggling. Try to meet new people.

I assumed some people did enjoy organising things- is that wrong?!

Well it's a hassle, isn't it? You are putting your neck out a bit, suggesting meeting. Sometimes the group isn't in to it and you look silly. Sometimes you don't get any response at all. Sometimes people seem to be in to it but it's like herding cats to agree on a date. You have to research what events are on, new restaurants, etc, find one suitable for all tastes/dietary requirements/budgets (not easy these days!) and book it. You are a bit nervous because the event or restaurant might be crap. Then on the day people aren't bothered and start dropping out.

OK it's not the hardest thing in the world, but of course I'd rather sit back and let a invitation come to me, let someone else do the work and take the risks. That's how everyone feels.

I think a lot of us have felt this way at some point in our lives, I definitely have.
Something interesting that was pointed out to me is that whilst we may consider a certain person as a close friend, they may consider us an acquaintance at best, and vice versa.
I have 2 friends who i'd have called close friends in school, and I now call acquaintances as I literally see them 2-3 times per year and they live 2 miles down the road, and we never speak apart from birthdays etc..
They say if you can count on 1 hand the number of close friends you have, youre doing well.
I'd say just don't have many expectations of people, even though that's easy to say. If you have the time to, try to broaden your social circle and meet more like-minded people through hobbies, for example.
I'm sorry youre feeling this way, please don't take it too personally.