Is he taking the p*** or genuine ?

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Been seeing a fairly what's seems lovely guy for 7/8 months , very nice , loads in common , but he tells me nearly every 10 mins how gorgeous I am and I'm so close to telling him to please just stop , I feel like he is taking the p* , I'm not gorgeous at all he is gorgeous and he is well out of my league. I'm 14 stone . Huge . I am not gorgeous. I've even ended up crying before now saying to him please stop saying that cause it's not true and it frustrates me . I've tried telling him but he just says "why do u think your aren't because you are " there's just no getting through to him , and i feel like he is only with me until something better comes along , hate feeling like this I really do 😭

You're gorgeous in his eyes just as he is gorgeous to you.

Have you got a problem with not liking your image? If you have low self esteem and think you don’t look good maybe you should get some help with that. He obviously thinks you are gorgeous or he wouldn’t keep saying it

Personally, if a man kept telling me constantly how attractive I am it would start to wear thin and feel very disingenuous. It sounds like love bombing to me.

If you were out of his league OP, he wouldn't have been with you for the last 8 months. You should trust what he's saying.

Low self esteem is shit, but you can overcome it. Crying about it is proof that you need to get some help, because it's not a healthy way to feel. Be kind to yourself.

Whether you are or you aren’t (I am sure you’re lovely by the way) I can see why you want him to stop saying it all the time!

It’d proper get on my tits to be honest!

Baaaaaaabe! He thinks you're GORGEOUS!! Seems like maybe you need to start gettin used to being complemented! You need to start believing that yourself!

Believe him and appreciate it!

Awh yeah my mans the same I wasn’t used to it at all. I thought ‘total lovebomber’ at first. But as time went on it showed how genuinely high he thinks of me and he really does feel unbelievably lucky to have me.

If it really does shake you up try having a serious talk with him, tell him you want him to slow down. Hopefully he will listen and respect your needs. In the meantime I really would consider working on that self esteem. A size 14 is not huge.

My boyfriend calls me "Beautiful" as his pet name for me. It felt weird at first, but i love it now. Im about the same weight as you, btw. Lots of men like bigger women, and lots of men are not shallow and love women because of their faces, their personalities, their charm and their loveliness, not just the size of their bums!

When you stop seeing compliments as flattery, and see them as genuine compliments, you will start feeling better about yourself, i promise. Do you ever pay people compliments? Are you just bullshitting when you do so? If you're sincere when you compliment people, why do you think your boyfriend can't possibly be sincere?

My OH tells me I'm gorgeous/beautiful/sexy everyday, I'm 16 stone and a size 20-22.
We have been together almost 4yrs and he still tells me everyday, at first I felt the same as you did, especially since my ex's had never said anything like that so I wasn't used to it, now I believe him, he does think I'm gorgeous, I might not think it about myself but he does.
He obviously thinks you are gorgeous, listen to him, he's telling the truth, sounds to me like he likes you a lot and is in it for the long haul, 8 months is a long time if he's just waiting for someone else to come along.
Try work on your self confidence, he sees something special in you, try seeing it yourself!

He probably finds you beautiful. You may think youre huge, and therefore not gorgeous, but in reality, a huge amount of people either prefer that, or are not put off by it. Lap it up and enjoy it.

Even if you don't feel beautiful embrace your inner beauty. My husband tells me how beautiful I am and I'm also 14 stone and 50 years old.

OK - do his actions match his words?

Does he seem proud to be with you in public?
Does he introduce you to friends, family, colleagues?
Does he seem attracted to you, make you feel desired?
Does he mock you or put you down generally in any other ways?

It's OK to tell him to lay off with the compliments if it's too much and doesn't feel genuine, but you've got to think whether his behaviour towards you matches what he says, and if it does, then happy days.

Not all men like size 8/10 woman. Embrace the compliments!
But most of all find love within yourself...or you may face the possibility of driving him away.

Sorry for late reply. He does act like it yes , I catch him just smiling at me sometimes when I'm not looking and seems happy to have me in public , I've met his brother briefly twice and a couple of his friends , I'm meeting his mum this week (she hasn't been well , but he says she knows everything about me ) he has told my mum he loves me to bits , I just feel so insecure , I've told him how I feel so unnattractive and he says he can't see it at all

Bless you OP.
Could you do some work on your self-esteem?
HE loves you - HE likes you just as you are.
It's something you need to learn to accept.
That you ARE worthy.
To him, and I'm sure many others, you are gorgeous.
It's hard to accept compliments sometimes.
Especially if you feel down on yourself.

I try so hard not to look for my flaws but can't help focussing on them , I even look in the mirror and think oh my God I look like a man the hell he see in me or is he taking the utter pee lol

You need to work on your own stuff then, and avoid sticking him with it.

I know this , I think partly cause my marriage which ended 2 years ago there was no affection or compliments I'm just not used to it