In need of a little advice

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Hello to everyone who reads this post. I am in need of your opinions pls.
I have just had some professional photos done of my baby girl and it has cost me a-lot of money to do so, which i don't mind as she's worth it. I paid for them to arrive to me digitally so i can print off as many as i want.
My problem is that my in-laws have asked me to send them all of the photos for them to keep. My issue is that why should i send them all when they didn't pay for them. I don't mind sending them 1 or 2 but the whole photo session is ridiculous. Am i being unreasonable?

I can see both your points here. Yes, it's a lot of money but that's why digital copies cost so much - because you then have free reign to do as you please with them.

Grandparents always enjoy nice photos of grandkids, especially posh professional ones. If you don't want to give them the digital copies then you could always get a couple of the best ones printed and put them in frames for them. Or, send screenshots of the best few for them to print themselves. That way they get to enjoy the photos but do not have full access.

YANBU to refuse them a copy of all professional photos. You paid for them and they belong to you. But I do think it's money wasted if you are just gonna clutch them tightly and not share them with anyone.

YABVU you were paying for all of them anyway, why would you not want to share your lovely photos with all of your family? It's not like they made you pay for them....

And if they didn't want any you'd be hideously offended.

What damage will be done by sharing? Or are you intending to only allow yourself and husband to view them?

Just send them a couple.

Don't be mean, send them! I honestly can't see any reason not to.

You were buying them anyway, can't see any reason for you not to let them have copies.

That’s the whole point isn’t it, that you can share them with family.

If you don’t want to print them all off for some reason just do the best ones.

Surely the whole point of buying the digital copies is that you can print loads and send to everyone so they can do the same without having to pay per photo? Get your money's worth and send to everyone!

You are being tight! Share them. What's the alternative, you charge them for a photo? How odd.

You probably won’t be able able to send by email if high resolution

You are being ridiculous

If you don’t want to send them all, you could show them the photos on your mobile and let them choose two and frame them up as a Christmas present. Or let them choose 12 and make it a calendar?

Personally I would just let them have them all. You paid a lot but what’s the point if nobody sees them. They are to be shown off.

You chose to have photos done and chose to spend the money, you can't really begrudge sharing any of them now.

I get this. My MIL used to ask for LOADS of our photos when DC were young, she's one of those (like so many of us) who loves to bring out a box of photos from yesteryear and spend hours looking at them with children/grandchildren. I felt very much like she was trying to take my memories, that every photo that marked an occasion or something that I knew the story behind she was taking to share herself years later. It probably sounds really silly, but it's how I felt. And my feelings are my feelings.

Anyway, turns out I'm shit at printing photos out or getting them on some kind of digital frame and actually the DC's (and I, I begrudgingly admit) love seeing them flipping round on a digital frame at her house. And she likes the reminder of us all - yes I feature on them too.

Let her proudly display her family, but if it really bothers you I'd get a couple of nice ones framed and gift them, see if that placates her.

Oh... and this continues as school photos come into play. Everyone wants one, you have to pay £50 for the privilege of dishing out enough of a suitable size to dish out and end up with just one yourself. For fifty big ones. 🙄