As title says I feel guilty . He says he is leaving me because of my attitude towards him,the nagging, undermining and criticising .for context, I am married to a workaholic who is essentially absent both physically and emotionally for years. He is a shouty and impatiens seargant major of a dad when he is present and essentially will sit on the couch and actually not speak to me or any of us when at home bar the bare minimum, always initiatedby me .
I feel awful. I wS always trying to get him to engage with me
And the kids, always at him to do stuff in the house. He did so very little Ashe was not there. When he was he was tired or cranky and I wanted to protect the children from that. I often walked on eggshells somas not to upset him but the final straw came in the summer when i was woth iur theee kids all day long and despite a child with sn and another with high anxiety, he would not take time off and come home early or help me . I always intervened when he was shouting at the kids and do not regret that though. I come from a generation of mothers who sat back and let the fathers shout and roar at their kids when they did not jump to the fathers commands . I hated the way he dealt with the kids it now I feeel so guilty like it’s my fault he has left us. Am I being rational or is this normal