Anyone’s partner jealous of relationship with their children?

[Mum2Girls90]

A random thought as I was browsing over recent threads.

My now ex DP used to get rather jealous of my relationship with our daughters. He would often say things like “you always buy them stuff but not me” or “why do you cuddle them but so closed with me”.

Our relationship ended due to EA and his drug use. I guess I’m still trying to make sense of the aftermath. I was very guarded affectionately with him (guess I knew he wasn’t good for me). But I struggle to understand why a fully grown man would be jealous over me being an affectionate mother?
He disliked our daughters sleeping in our bed. Even just for a cuddle at bedtime. It was ok for me to parent single handedly though.
I know men have their own needs, but I was often put down for being “too soft” and I portray myself as a “perfect mother who knows it all” according to him.

Just wanted some insight really.

I've known this to happen to some people in relationships. It's rather sad to think someone would get jealous of their own child.

One friend was that child. Her mum was jealous of her relationship with her dad, so the mum bullied her and treated her differently to her sibling. She was around 4 at the time, maybe younger, but the abuse towards her went on for years.

It really confuses me how it could be interpreted as a bad thing? I personally think his problem was more to do with that our girls always wanted me. I do it all and when they’d refuse to do something with him he’d saying “oh mummy’s girl” etc with such spite.
I however, would love it if they were more for dad (not going to happen as he’s an ass) as it would give me a break from 2 clingy children 😂

My mum's ex was very jealous of our relationship and used to say very similar things. Wouldn't let us go anywhere on our own. Thankfully she LTB.

Those who are emotionally abusive are very often emotionally needy or immature.

His jealousy of your relationship to your dds is most probably due to him not having a close bond with either of his dps, or of wanting to be the centre of attention at all times.

If he had properly engaged with his dc from birth they would be 'daddy's girls' as well as mummy's with each parent contributing their own unique qualities to the well-being of their dc and accepting that occasionally one parent is favoured over another for no apparent reason.

If he is the only male role model your dds have they may grow up to have a somewhat contemptuous view of men, or believe that they have to sublimate themselves to please the opposite sex.

My ex wife was jealous of my relationship with our daughters. She used to scream about how we were "too close" because she felt left out. It was very damaging behaviour. In her case, it was a symptom of much deeper psychological issues (pretty sure she has BPD), and it was accompanied by terrible rages. Hence why she is now the ex wife! My girls and I are still very close. Meanwhile, she continues to have difficulties in her relationship with them at times, because of her insecurities and jealousy.