My husband and I had the beginnings of a disagreement last night. To deflect - I was challenging inappropriate behaviour of him and his friends in a whatsapp chat - he has accused me of having an affair. This is nonsense. I recognise it as DARVO and am disturbed that he is resorting to abusive behaviour. On one previous occasion he tried to gaslight me, which again I immediately recognised and challenged. I'm wondering what to do next. Counselling maybe? Is a preliminary meeting with a lawyer an overreaction? I am the higher earner by quite some distance. We have two small children. Any similar experiences?