This may be long so bear with me but I really need some help putting things into perspective. I have 3 sisters, I am 2nd eldest. My mum has been married and divorced 5 times, my dad was her 3rd marriage. Me and my sisters are all (apparently but that's a whole other thread) his. They divorced when I was 6, I'm not 100% sure of the circumstances, my mum always said that it was because he hit her but my dad has alluded to her having an affair - not that any if that necessarily matters.
As a child since they divorced, my DM had a constant procession of boyfriends, none of who ever lasted more than a couple of years. I can remember many, many times I would hear her having sex, even when I was downstairs with a friend she was upstairs having noisy sex with a boyfriend which we could hear - this was the middle of the day and I can remember him coming down afterwards all red faced and sweaty to make cups of tea, I would have been about 11, grim. There are many more examples.
I was always my dad's favourite and when he and mum divorced he cleared off abroad for a few years which I think affected me. I was bullied by my big sister pretty relentlessly which has affected my self esteem, along with throwaway comments my mum would make about my appearance/figure along with telling me I was a bit odd. Basically made to feel like the black sheep of the family.
As an adult I am now happily married (11 years) and have 2 DD's, a job that I enjoy that I am about to do further training in, a hobby I love that I have been passionate about since I was a child. I'm in a pretty good place.
There has been some upset as my DD who is 18 has told my big sister some home truths and she has overreacted massively - this has led to criticism from my mum and sister about my parenting abilities (sister has no kids/never married) - and ultimately we are now not speaking. Should I be listening to this from someone who set such a shit example to us when we were children?? I don't think I care any more...