Maybe love isn't meant for me

[Lovehaspassedmeby]

I've been thinking about this a lot lately and I'm hoping to hear from people in the same position and who've made their peace with it. I've had years and years of therapy so I know my issues but I just seem stuck so maybe it's an inherent part of my personality.

I feel like it's time to accept that love isn't for me. Some people are loveable or can sustain happy relationships and some people can't. I've always craved a loving relationship - probably too much - and I know the answer lies in being happy in myself etc etc. That seems to be beyond me. I have a DS who is the absolute light of my life. My relationship with his dad just about broke me. I'm still in love with him over 2.5 years on and can't see that ever changing. I grew up feeling that I wasn't worthy of love and, no matter how hard I've tried, I can't seem to change that. How do I accept it and make my peace with it?

If you're still thinking about ur ex, I don't think you will truly fall in love with a new partner. You need to be 100% committed for new love.

Love comes from the heart, can't really measure how long it takes to get over someone, I guess similar to grief.

There's nothing more attractive than strong Woman who knows what she wants and content with herself. Wear a confident smile, I believe if its meant to be, it'll happen and you have to jump in both feet!

That's exactly it. I don't think it's meant to be for me. I'm not looking for any new partner. I need to accept the current situation because me and love don't seem to work!

I guess it's trying to accept that I won't find love

I was you a few years ago and I never thought I would get over him but I have . I found out when I got out there and actually met someone who made me réalise I was over my ds dad and actually be glad he left me and although it didn't work out due to logistics, I know I am ready to love again although it hasn't happened yet . You will get over him when you least expect it

@Lovehaspassedmeby just do that! Accept love didn't find you today. But if might find you the next day, or the day after that. Everyday is different. How we feel is transient and transformative. Just live in the now.

What would you tell your son if he said he was unlovable one day?

I hope I'm raising my son to know he is loved and lovable. That's not how we were raised and I think some part of me is broken from it. The hope and desire to be loved are too painful.