'The one'

[anothernamejeeves]

Has anyone else ever felt like they aren't the one or the one you are with isn't the one?

Is 'the one' even a thing?

I've got to be honest I've never felt like 'I'm the one' for my DH. Whether it's just me or whether he never made me feel like that I don't know. I have after 19 years together only just discussed this.

Anyone else get this?

I'm married to the 'one'
25 years together love him more every year

My dad was married to his one for twenty years until she died.

After a few years and the odd gf she met his other a lovely lady who he was with happily for 30 years

So maybe you can have more than one great love.

I read once there are three main loves of your life.

The first doesn't last - far too young.

The second, for whatever reason, doesn't work out. This is the one that absolutely cuts you in half and teaches you alot. You probably take years to recover from it.

The third is the most REAL because you're now sure of what you want from going through the first two, but it comes without sunshine and rainbows. It's a long lasting friendship as well as being lovers.

Not true in everyone's case but certainly in mine. I'm 35 and I'm finally on the third. If it doesn't work out I'll never have the energy or desire to attempt another relationship again.

I think it’s nonsense as a concept.

People can find other people they’re eminently suited to.

But the idea of “one person” or “soulmates” is just illogical

@SpecialKRocks223
Interesting
Can relate totally.
Though my order was 2 1 3

Nope. I’m with ‘the one’ and 30 years later, it’s still fabulous!!!! He’s everything I need, and I’m ‘the one’ for him!

I've found mine. He's the most handsome man I've ever seen and he thinks I'm the most beautiful woman he's ever seen. he listens to me and never gets grossed out by anything i might do. We go together like puzzle pieces and just thinking of his smile makes me swoon. I've never felt this way before and I know that even if I died tomorrow I have known what it feels to be truly loved.

Oddly enough when I was in uni I wrote a list of my "ideal guy" and he's every single thing on that list.

I don’t think there is a ‘one’ per se, I’ve definitely been in love before but timing or circumstances weren’t right, they weren’t ready or I wasn’t. My ‘one’ is someone who I love and fancy a huge amount but also where everything else clicked in - and where my learnings from past relationships allowed me to negotiate any tricky moments well.

Hmm, as I’ve learnt it’s very easy to find the one you genuinely think is the one, until they suddenly aren’t!! So I am a cynic I’m afraid. By the time you get to my age(57) so many of your friends have been totally crapped on out the blue , in some cases after 20 years plus that it’s hard to believe in ‘the one’

My DP is the one

I do think that unfortunately not everybody meets ‘the one’

I feel so incredibly lucky to have met mine