being a SAHM should I thank my husband for his salary.....

[hermykne]

because he just told me he thinks its taken for granted.
and somedays he wishes his job was less and i was working and it d be fairer

i think this isnt a good sign at all.

now how could i thank him?
after i cook, clean and all that jazz

he works away for 24hr shifts, so i look after kids amd done for 5 yrs, practically non stop and could prob say i have had 10 days "out" for me in that time.

he is useless with finances, i do all that, get best deals, from flights to car insurance.

i got it berolina, i think really my husband is just is caught up in his salary and the cost of living and sees his good salary eaten up with practical things that just are, nothing we can do about them bar shop around but i feel every now and again he rather immaturely feels that he'd like "his " salary for himself . just like i d like a grand to spend on all the wonderful nice stuff i saw in red and harpers! and he cant get over that for some inane reason that i cant communicate to him about.

maybe i am too serious and stubborn, which is true

Oh, I can imagine that's annoying. In our case, as well as earning the salary, I had dh going on about he'd like/he thought we should get this, that and the other, which I (as the 'financial manager' of the relationship) knew it would be utterly irresponsible to get...

Bloody hell, why do men always think being a sahm is an easy option, it may be more rewarding but its bloody hard work and you dont get adult interaction, lunch breaks, time out for good behaviour, money or days off sick arrrghhh

ask him to take two weeks off and bugger off on a girlie holiday or get a two week temp job or something and he may have a slight idea about bing a sahm, dont even get me started on all the housework etc

We have really odd set up in many ways, both work at home so share most of the work domestic and otherwise. But we still don't appreciate each other's contribution enough - you just get so caught up with the grind, I think.