I was in this situation.
He said he wanted a family and a future with me. I said the same - we agreed to wait.
Medication I was taking made me sick and the pill failed.
I got pregnant. He freaked out..... majorly.
Pretended it wasn’t happening. Cried to his siblings and started to reject me. Was adamant he didn’t want the baby.
Initially, I told him I wasn’t getting an abortion.
Then I realised I couldn’t take the baby to term with my health issues and without and help (mostly financial), I was also living with a family member who had become abusive.
He wouldn’t step up. I told him the relationship was over and that I had an appointment to schedule the termination.
We broke up. Then I begged him to look after us. Told him I wouldn’t ask for anything else and I meant it. I just wanted to give the baby a chance and that later if he felt the same (he couldn’t do it) then we could adopt him out. I had been looking for adoption places at this stage.
We agreed to wait until the scan to see if he was healthy. With the rationale of that if the little guy was healthy, we should give him a chance.
Something changed in him after he saw the first scan and could hear the heartbeat.
I ended up moving in with him, my health has improved greatly my condition flared with stress and I was being threatened and abused where I was living l.
Living with him has been lovely. We are happy. He is looking forward to the baby. He really wants to be a dad.
It was really really difficult.
But I persevered.
My health is better. The baby is healthy and I’m very visibly pregnant.
I am glad that we are going through this together.
I’ve read threads on here about abortion regret.
I knew I would regret having a termination.
Please think through all of your options 💕