A year or so ago I met a guy through a work colleague. He added me on Facebook , but I didn’t engage much as was quite busy. About six months later I left my job and this guy started talking to again. This time I replied and our contact was daily, we seemed to really get on and he said he wanted all the same things in life . I thought we were friends . We started to meet for drinks , he said I was lovely deserved a nice guy etc , said I was ‘hot’.
Then one day we drunk a lot on an evening out and he kissed me /we slept together . It was unexpected for me. I spoke to him about it after and asked him what did he want, he said he wasn’t sure (great) . But he said would start seeing each other .
We carried on seeing each other, he was texting me every day acting like a bf on txts. Eventually I called him out on it and asked where it was going, he was vague .We had some time apart . He then came back to me and said he wanted to date me properly. told me he wanted a relationship , loved me etc. This never really came about, we went on one official date. If anyone had complimented me he would say ‘bet they don’t mean it’. He kept calling me old (he is a few years younger). I said I hadn’t eaten much and he said ‘yeah right I don’t believe that ‘.
I had so many suspicions and I found out he was seeing lots of girls as well as me and he admitted he was just being selfish by not ending it with me. He never liked me at all.
The thing is I feel like such a fool , how could I have allowed myself to be led on . I keep having panic attacks.
I feel so down now because this has happened to me a couple of times . I have low self esteem. Would counselling help ?