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Am I some kind of back-up plan ?

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Blueandlilac · 19/09/2019 23:12

A bloke I went to school with years ago got back in touch and started messaging me often on Facebook.
Nice enough bloke but didn't really think of him in more than a friendly way.
At the time I was a bit on and off with someone else too. I decided I could be mates with the bloke but be clear I wasn't looking for anything more.
However he seemed flaky, I invited him out for my birthday and he didn't show up with no explanation, then he said he wanted to ring me one night, then it kept getting put back to other nights.
He asked me for a drink and a few days before I explained the situation with my ex and that I just wanted to be friends. He was really nice about it and said he fully understood, still wanted to meet etc.
Then I asked him what time we were meeting and he just never replied and stopped texting me.
Anyway, about a month later it came up on Facebook saying he was with someone.
2 months have passed and now he's come back messaging me daily. I looked and he's now single, so that explains it. I am now too and would have considered giving him a chance but I feel like he's only come back because it didn't work with his ex ? And plus he seems flaky, but I'm worth more than that. Would you just forget him ?

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TheyDoItOnPurposeLynne · 19/09/2019 23:14

100% yes, forget about him. What an utter waste of your time and energy

Blueandlilac · 19/09/2019 23:17

I also saw him on a dating site about 3 months ago stating 'I don't want a relationship'. I will maybe just try let the conversation fade, and if he asks me for a drink again just politely decline.

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AgentJohnson · 20/09/2019 06:02

Why are you letting it fade? Just tell him no thanks and block.

Barbarafromblackpool · 20/09/2019 06:03

Do not bother with the person.

Blueandlilac · 20/09/2019 08:23

Yeah I ain't bothering, forget him

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NameChangeNugget · 20/09/2019 08:36

You’re giving this bell end, far too much headspace. His actions are basically saying, I don’t give a shiny shit about you, unless I’m single

Highandlow · 20/09/2019 08:40

I would just ignore /block.

Blueandlilac · 20/09/2019 10:55

Yeah i've just deleted his last message !

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letsdolunch321 · 20/09/2019 10:58

Block and move on

user1479305498 · 20/09/2019 11:42

I swear when some blokesare single they get out there on FB looking for any women they might have ever even vaguely known at some point just to see if they ‘get a bite’ .

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