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Partner's wind keeping us in separate bedrooms.

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123Chicago23own · 19/09/2019 21:47

Since being with my partner his wind has got so bad I can't sleep in the same room as him anymore. The smell wakes me up in the night and it's so bad I can't get back to sleep.

He thinks it's funny and a joke but I can't keep sleeping on the guest bed because it's uncomfortable.

Does anyone else have this issue? How do you deal with it? He won't go to the doctors. I think I'm going to get a proper bed to replace the guest bed.

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YesSheCan · 19/09/2019 22:05

This is an issue for a relative of mine. They have had severe diverticulitis resulting in half of the large bowel being removed, followed by a stay in intensive care for another reason, complicated by infections and lots of heavy duty antibiotics, leaving them with a very irritable bowel. Your partner needs to see a doctor (unless it's something obvious like appalling diet)

Hecateh · 19/09/2019 22:19

I found taking pre and probiotics reduced my wind issues and more importantly the small

KOKOtiltomorrow · 19/09/2019 22:22

My H is only like this if he drinks Guiness. It does sound like a medical problem unless he’s on a diet of guiness and beans. Check up with the GP is what I’d be recommending and possibly a diet overhaul.

FireCrotch69 · 19/09/2019 22:24

Change his diet

SingingSands · 19/09/2019 22:46

Buy a better guest bed would be my advice. Separate bedrooms have saved many a marriage.

30to50FeralHogs · 19/09/2019 22:55

Get him to sleep on the guest bed if he thinks it’s funny.

You can buy charcoal tablets which are supposed to be good for wind. But I agree that he either needs a diet overhaul or a trip to the GP first.

Haffiana · 19/09/2019 23:01

What is your actual question, OP? Are you wanting us to share fart stories or something?

Absolom · 19/09/2019 23:14

This used to be my husband. Not as bad now but some nights it was like a solid not a gas. It just stayed in the air over out bed it didn't move on and disperse...

Now it's the dog... She has really bad nights. But somehow I can tolerate her snoring and farting way more than I could the other half!!!

RLEOM · 19/09/2019 23:23

Diet? Liver problems? Bowel problems?

Ringdonna · 20/09/2019 00:17

Get him these

Aquamarine1029 · 20/09/2019 00:20

I wouldn't stay with a man who cared so little about his own health and my comfort. Get rid because this is only the beginning of his shit treatment of you.

MummyShah369 · 20/09/2019 00:22

You really need to clear the air with him... tell him either he goes to spare bed or.doctor his choice...

Scott72 · 20/09/2019 02:48

Haha last couple of posts, nice puns. But seriously, what's the point of having a bed in the house that's too uncomfortable to sleep on? Replace the mattress.

1forAll74 · 20/09/2019 02:52

It's your turn for the nice bed, and partner in the spare bed, with the window open of course. It may be a diet problem, or a medical one, but check everything out to be sure.

Totalwasteofpaper · 20/09/2019 04:40

I would be insisting he sleep on the lumpy guest bed until the new mattress came and that he goes to the doctors ASAP

Waking you up with his farts from the bowels of Hell is not okay

I would be pissed off but concerned about it being a (serious) medical problem

HopeIsNotAStrategy · 20/09/2019 04:44

Are you sure it’s not his elbow?

Jesaminecollins · 20/09/2019 04:44

Give him some charcoal tablets - my elderly Aunt uses them and said it has reduced her wind.

Bananalanacake · 20/09/2019 07:39

how long have you been together. it would be better to not live with him and have your own bedroom.

FizzyGreenWater · 20/09/2019 09:40

He thinks it's funny? Right, from now on he's on the lumpy spare mattress. And if he doesn't like it and finds he's suddenly not laughing all that much about this hilaaaarious situation then HE can research and buy a new guest bed, or maybe even visit the doctor.

Why on earth are you making this your problem? I can almost kind of see why he is like this (ie, a total twat) if this is the way issues play out in your home:

He causes problem = YOU immediately have to solve or make adjustments to cope with the problem. Ickle baby manchild can't possibly be inconvenienced and is shielded from ANY negative consequences to the extent that him causing you distress and hassle he finds funny.

Only he can sort this out, but the status quo in your house is for him to be able to say, nahh, don't want to... and for YOU to end up on a forum upset and actually looking for ways to find your new nights banished to the spare room in your own home slightly more comfortable.

I suspect it's hardly worth it, but if you want to have a stab at turning this moron into a functioning adult, tell him that from now on HE has the guest bed until HE sorts out HIS problem.

FizzyGreenWater · 20/09/2019 09:43

Oh and by the way, I can predict how he'll react if you do the above: he'll get nasty and abusive and start ranting at you and making YOU feel guilty. I'd lay a bet on it - this type always do. All laughs and bantz while they're being treated like pampered piglets, and nasty twats when they aren't.

I'm sure some folk on here will think my post very negative and overreacting, but I can tell you one thing which I find never fails to be true. If you're distressed over something and your partner finds it funny - they are a shitbag. Never, ever, have I found this not to be the case.

pudding21 · 20/09/2019 12:02

Like a precious poster said, pre biotics and pro biotics should help a huge amount. He needs a good probiotic with different strains of lactobacillus and bifidobacterium (not just single strain). Also needs to increase his fibre (whole grains, pulses, beans if he can tolerate etc), and cut of any processed foods. He should be a lot better within a month.

Some people also benefit from fermented foods like saurkraut.

The smell is because food is putrifying in his bowels no doubt. If his transit time is low and he has over population of non beneficial bacteria and fungus, they will be producing lots of gas etc. Good bacteria (pro biotics) help keep the bad bacteria in check. Limit meat, and eat whole grain plant based foods mainly.

He might have some intolerances, but the probiotics are a simple first port of call and usually well tolerated.

Hydrogenbeatsoxygen · 20/09/2019 12:04

He should try going dairy free. It worked wonders for me.

Sunhill4 · 20/09/2019 12:17

I seriously can't believe somebody would suggest breaking up a relationship due to wind!!! Some of you people must struggle to find the perfect partner

FatArse123 · 20/09/2019 15:36

Does he do it when he's awake? I am a massive nocturnal farter, apparently. Well not apparently, because it wakes me up too! I try and make jokes about it with DH, just because I don't know how else to handle it.

meccacos2 · 20/09/2019 17:06

My partner has terrible wind. I buy him lacteze. He’s lactose intolerant.

He is careful with his farts now.

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