So my now ex wasn't the childrens father but was a big part of their life (kids still have a regular, amazing relationship with their father). My ex and I broke up Monday and I told the kids yesterday as they have been with their dad up until then. They're very upset and confused as am I. We broke up because over the last 4 months a couple of his relatives have been in a brutal arguement and we've been dragged into it countless times even though it has absolutely nothing to do with us. We've been asked to pass on messages, been getting abusive texts when we've refused. It caused a huge impact on our usual idyllic, peaceful life and I just couldn't cope with the stress of it all and it made me paranoid and anxious and him very depressed and angry. We then began arguing about it and ended up blaming each other that we let his realtives behaviour affect us so negatively. There has been a massive fall out and this week it just finished us off. My kids weren't involved in any of it and are unaware of what happened with his relatives and they're absolutely devastated that my ex has left and are gutted and they think I'm to blame for him leaving. I'm trying to keep the 3 of us in a happy, positive place but it's just so hard. I've deactivated all social media as I just dont want to be contacted by anyone asking what happened or see posts that might upset me. Any tips to make things that little bit easier?