So just trying to work out if I’m being unreasonable here, my family & friends think I’m not but it is for DD so I want to get this right.
Ever since DD was born 11months a go her parental GPs really haven’t bothered with her. The day she was born they made a big fuss of wanting to come see her at the hospital, they grate on me but I said yes sure (more people to love her the better) and then they didn’t turn up because mil left her phone at work. Annoyed me a bit but my family will pretty much drop everything to be there regardless of who is missing a phone, but tried not to hold this against them. When she was 3days old they came and saw her which was good, but since then they’ve never come to see her.
While I was with my ex we were a mile away from them, they would pass the flat on their way to work, on their way to the cinema, going to the shop 5 minutes away but never made an effort to see DD. Instead they’d call up EXP and say oh we haven’t seen baby in a while can xmynamex bring her around. At the time I didn’t drive but would walk the 2 miles even in the rain so they could see DD. Now I don’t mind this but I’m very much about give and take, unless of course that isn’t possible (I.e. if they were immobile etc) but did get annoyed that both exp and ex pils would say DD doesn’t know her GP yet I was the only one making any effort. To the point I said ok once a month I’ll cook dinner on a Sunday and alternate locations between our flat and theirs. First month they had their excuse for not coming and then that died a death. In all honesty in the end I got sick of being blamed for them not having a relationship with DD yet neither my abusive ex nor pils done a single thing, it was all left to me.
Now ex and I have broken up I have moved 90mins back to my home town. Been here for 3 months and not heard a word from pils, not to see how DD was etc. Last week I even said to exp if they want to see DD they’re more than welcome to come down with you and you all take her out. Anyway today I get a text from the ex asking if we can take DD to see his parents. If have yet to reply but I do feel like saying they can come down here and actually make an effort for once as opposed to making their demands.
But I don’t know if I’m just being a little too unreasonable about this. I’m not stopping them from seeing DD I just don’t want them to think they don’t need to make an effort.