I'm really tired, I've had a shit few days and there's no one around to talk to. Also, there is a backstory, its not my intention to drip feed but Id really like perspective on this by itself.
Background DD is 8, been with the DP 5.5 years, we've all lived together for 3.5. DD's dad is very involved but she and DP are also very close. DP always very vocal about our 'little family' and about how much he loves 'the girls'.
At the weekend DD was at her dad's but she had a virus and was suffering with her asthma. ExH called at one point to say he was worried about her and I went over while he called NHS direct. An ambulance was sent and we spent the night in a and e then she was admitted.
ExH and I shared staying over for 3 nights and making sure she had at least one of us with her all the time. I also had to juggle a freelance work commitment I couldn't moss and attend a job interview, which I wanted to just cancel really. It was poor DDs first hospital stint and the worst asthma she's ever had by far.
DP has coincidentally had the last four days off work. He was great on the first night, coming to the hospital at 1am as I didn't have my car and then popped into see DD in the morning.
Monday PM I called him about something but he sounded really distracted, he was obviously engrossed on his computer. He didn't even ask about DD, although I suppose he'd seen her earlier. He had said he wanted to go and see her again in the evening but I text him an hour before visiting time ended and he didn't see the message on his phone. He was obviously engrossed again on his computer.
That evening DD got worse and it was a pretty sucky night. When everything calmed down at about midnight, I picked my phone up, no message off DP asking how we were. I text to tell him about DD and say goodnight. He didn't see the message for an hour or so, so had obviously been busy on his computer and hadn't stopped to wonder how we were.
Next morning he messaged to ask if we wanted breakfast bringing. The hospital don't provide breakfast so I said yes please, we're starving. We live 10 minutes away but it took him an hour and a half to get there.
I asked him to change the beds and hoover upstairs for when we got home so DD could sleep in clean, dust free surroundings and he said he would.
Tues night I went home as exH was sleeping at the hospital. No housework had been done and DP was on his computer again. He said he'd do the housework in the morning and rushed out to get some tea as there was no food in the house and he 'hadn't had chance' to go shopping.
This morning, I left early for the hospital and told DP that hopefully I'd be bringing DD home lunchtime. Luckily, the night had gone well and we were allowed home.
When we walked in, DP was on his computer. He'd picked things off the floor and done half of the bathroom but that was about it.
I changed the sheets and hoovered while DD stayed downstairs. Not the end of the world, but hardly the return home to a nice clean bed that I wanted for her. The one she'd have had if I'd done the beds myself which I would have done had DP just been honest and said he wasn't going to bother.
The sink was full of dishes. I settled DD and started doing them. DP then took over and obviously out of guilt, hoovered the living room. I then gave him a shopping list as there was still no food in and DD was hungry.
I just feel like he's been crap. He prides himself on being very family orientated and thoughtful but I think he let us down.
How annoyed would you be? If at all? I'm not sure if my high level of annoyance is because I'm tired and stressed and I've got a general downer on him because of other things going on at the moment