My DH of 11 years has told me recently that he doesn't want our relationship anymore but then he has also said that he loves me and that if he didn't want to be with me, he would leave. He has also kindly told me how if he was single it would be great because he could go and see his friend all of the time.
My DH suffers from depression, he is also a huge narcissist. A lot of what he says just washes over my head because sometimes he says ridiculous things when he is going through a depressive stage.
DH has a very small business (manual labour type) which he hates and makes him very tired. Since we had our child two years ago, I feel as though we have spent very little time together - he works, goes to the pub more often than not after work. We actually used to work together within the business because he always used to tell me how he couldn't do it alone and he couldn't afford to pay somebody else to help. I am now the main carer of DC and I work PT. We only ever argue about him not coming home after work and the majority of the time it's 9pm+ and I resent him for it because I don't think I should be doing all of the child care and housework. I also have a LT condition and anyone would think he has forgotten about it because he makes no effort to help me around the house or, to even suggest that he look after DC whilst I go out.
Another point to mention is the fact that I used to work for his business and help him run it for 4+ years and now apparently 'I didn't used to work.' (Have a job at all) This hurts a lot because I am now the one with a basic PT job that I hate and he replaced me after 3 months of having DC and always said that I could have my job back but now apparently - there is no way.
I'm sorry for the long post. I do love him but I know that he is acting disgusting towards me and I am struggling. I can't leave because I can't afford to so I am considering going back to university or setting up my own business in case we do split.