Working/Career Mum

[Justmomma]

My DH has been complaining that I work late and thinks i should be home a lot earlier. I leave home 8am and usually get back around 7pm occasionally 8pm. i work about an hour from home. DH does drop off and pick up because he works 20mins from home. We have 1 4year old. I work in finance with good possibilities of progression. I earn more at the moment and my earning potential is at least 3x what i’m on based on my field and education. I don’t want my relationship to suffer but i’m not sure what to do. Has anyone else experienced this? Should i continue making sacrifices for my career?

Why is he a career dad instead of a stay at home dad? He’s being ridiculous. If you want to continue your career then you should. Only ever give it up if it’s what you want and what’s best for you, not because it’s best for him.

Is your child 1 or 4 or 14 ? I’m not sure ?!
Personality if I had a 1 or 4 year old then I wouldn’t sacrifice that time for a job . There’s plenty of time to work longer hours once they are older .

What time does your child get up and go to bed?

I had a talk with my DP, all exes and any potential boyfriends when I first started going out with them to make it clear I was in a field where I could earn a lot and that would involved them doing childcare if we had children as it may involve travel and/or working late.

The one I'm with long term is oddly the one who doesn't see it as a problem. In his circle of friends it isn't rare for the man to be the lower earner and to pull their weight in terms of doing childcare and/or house hold tasks.

Some of my brothers have had similar conversations with their wives before they had children.

What I'm saying you need to sit down and have a proper talk with your husband. You need to know what you both expect from your marriage. While you should have had this talk before you got married and had a child, you can still have it otherwise you will definitely be divorced in a few years.

Surely this conversation should been had before you had children?

If you are the higher earner then the other partner will have to do more of the childcare.

What does he expect you to do? Give up your career?

If you were a man, this wouldn't even be an issue.

Your DH is more than capable of doing drop off and pick ups and you should be able to concentrate on your career without him making you feel guilty.

So many times on here, you hear stories from women who are left with nothing because they have supported their husbands career instead of concentrating on their own. A lot end up staying in unhappy and/or abusive relationships because they have no way of supporting themselves.