Divorce from abusive partner

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Hoping for some wisdom from those who have been there...
I’ve made the decision that separating from my emotionally abusive partner is the best thing for myself and my 3 kids. I know that he will not take it well and wanted to hear how others in a similar position brought up separation and their partner’s reaction so I know somewhat what to expect

Bumping this for you OP, but there are some excellent threads in this topic that you can read through, also in the separation and divorce section on MN.

There is a lot of really good advice about emotional abuse on this site. It has really helped me. Before you tell your partner make sure you have done a lot of preparation. I would talk to Women’s Aid first, see if they have a local service in your area and speak to a domestic abuse advisor.

It might be helpful to keep a diary of the abuse so you have evidence when it comes to court as you will want to protect your DC. You could also get support from your GP ask to be referred for counselling and then you will also have evidence that you can use.

I know it seems bizarre to focus on evidence but if you are in an abusive relationship and you are afraid to say you are leaving you need to prepare for the fact that it could turn nasty and put steps in place to protect your DC.