So a few months ago I asked for advice. About 6 years ago my husband lost a lot of weight and started sexting and planning to meet other women. We had it out at the time and he said that it had just been about the attention he was getting after his massive weightloss that he was flattered and he promised that he had never met any of these women and that he wouldn't carry on with the messaging. At the time I chose to believe him and we moved on. Then earlier this year I noticed that there were a ridiculous amount of text messages showing on our itemised mobile bill all from his phone to the same number but when I looked at his phone the messages had been deleted. I again confronted him and he said it was a women he works with (he's a nurse) and that he had been talking to her because our sex life is so mad and that she was just a friend giving advise and a shoulder to cry on. Again I believed him and the texts stopped. But then in July my son was playing with my husbands phone and a whatapp message came up which he had opened and didn't know how to get rid of. He gave the phone to me to sort out and the whatsapp message was from another women he works with. I could only look at it for a second but the message she'd sent obviously followed on from a longer chat, but the previous messages had been deleted. Later in the day I had a quick chance to check again while he was in the loo and he had messaged back, she'd ended a message saying Love you lots and he'd ended a message saying Miss you. A few days after all this we went on holiday with all my family and on the drive down he was messaging and when I asked who he was talking to he told me it was this women, apparently she was staying near to where we were going and she was saying her and her husband were having a crap time because it was raining and they were stuck in a tent, he told me like he was just chatting about a friend. Then 2 days in to the holiday at about 11.30pm he was messaging again and when I asked he said it was her again and that she was going home because the tent was soaked and they had had enough, again it was very matter of fact. I hadn't managed to look at his phone for a while, he's been taking it everywhere with him, even the shower, but last week I did and there are some messages from her, work related but all the ones before and during our holiday have been deleted. There was also a message from another women he works with, again he's message had been deleted but her reply was there which started hi darling, I miss you too, I couldn't read the rest because I heard him coming, but I woke up earlier than him the other day and the whole chat has been deleted. If I hadn't have seen her reply I wouldn't have even know there had been any messages!! My husband is 38 and I'm 48, he has always liked older women and the one he had spoke to on holiday is about my age but i looked this latest one up on FB and she's 59!!! So now I'm thinking am I being paranoid because of the past and she's just a friend, but then why delete the messages?? Its all so confusing because he rings me every time he has a break at work and tells me how much he loves me, he's very affectionate at home and doesn't go out often, so I don't think anything physical can be happening i just don't get all these deleted messages?? He is also just using whatsapp for these messages, not texts because he obviously knows I can see the itemised bill. Anyone else had a similar issue, what did you do?