8 years with DP, we live in separate houses by choice, did nearly move in, but didn't. I have a DS from previous. Was great at first, he was kind, funny & social. He's now the complete opposite. Lazy, selfish & no support.
Completely emotionally unavailable.
I had abdominal surgery recently, he reluctantly stayed over as nurse wouldn't let me home alone to a 16yr old. I really struggled post op, the anesthesia & pain hit me hard, plus I was pretty sick in the run up & was a feeble emotional wreck for about 9 days, he came to visit x2. No offer of help around the house with day to day chores, cooking etc, even though I coukd barely carry a plate, just said DS could do it as he's 16. DS was in middle of choosing colleges at time & was stressed & was helping as much as any 16yr DS would.
Another red flag was a very close family member spent 1 month in critical hospital care, I was really worried & sad, not so much as a hug, just a brief pat on the back & he just turned every conversation around to what if he was in that situation with the illness & how it would affect him!
He's also been on a radical diet to lose 2 stone & all through my abdominal surgery & the medically advised diet I was on he kept comparing his diet to my illness/surgery, literally every conversation he manages to turn around to be about him & how it affects him. Add to this constant negativity, no zest for life, getting angry for tiny stupid reasons, like an email not being answered instantly,
Ranting a bit, sorry!......... Anyone here have any experience of emotionally avoidant men & how to make the split??