3 weeks ago, after months of verbal abuse, a threat of violence towards me, and inappropriate disciplining of my daughter, I told my partner of 2 years to leave the house immediately.
Since then, she has written a beautiful apology letter to my daughter, made arrangements to go to therapy, and made tearful appeals to start dating me again with a clean slate. She's not a bad person, she just doesn't have much emotional maturity, and I can't have that around my daughter, even if I were prepared to take on the exhausting role of looking after the relationship for both of us.
I said that I wasn't able to work out what was right, and I needed space. I asked her not to contact me until end of November, and in the meantime we should focus on making ourselves as happy as possible, individually. I sometimes feel a very strong hope that this can be slowly rebuilt. Her first reaction was to accuse me of being with someone else, but she calmed down and agreed.
For 24 hours.
Just had a text asking if I want to go to an LGBT Community event with her, which she knows full well I would have wanted to go to with her, as it's somewhere we could be exactly who we are as a lesbian couple. I'm heartbroken, partly because a part of me wanted to throw all my decisions up until now away and say yes, but also because I know this is a sign she cannot respect my boundaries, even when I make them very clear.