Does he even like me like that?

[PollyMarchet]

Hi all,
I've recently been on about 6 dates with this guy, he is quiet busy so we see each other like once every 2 weeks. He makes the effort to message me constantly and I feel like I'm playing hard to get to make him like me more but I'm not sure if it's working. He always goes in for the kiss, never me and recently I have noticed him being a bit more distant.. at the end of this I want a relationship.. I hadn't seen him a while so told him as a joke I was on a date and he straight away replied that we should go out which we then did and I told him I was only out with one of my girl friends. I want to move this forward but don't know how, we haven't slept together yet either. Should I be more loving and tell him I miss him? I think he will be a bit shocked??

Why play games?

Honestly. Playing hard to get? Why? Lying about who you're with?

Makes you seem hideously immature.

You sound like hard work OP.

I should think he will be a bit surprised if you say that, yes. Firstly as he probably thinks you are not at all interested, as you have been acting coldly to him so far. And secondly as you have been on just six dates and hardly known one another.

There is a middle ground between telling him you miss him and pretending you’re going on dates with other people.

Try being honest and authentic - kiss him if you want to kiss him, text him if you want to text him and stop playing silly games.

Hard to get just means hard work.

Any man who only wants someone he can’t have is a douche and not worth winning.

Every two weeks isn't enough to keep a relationship going and you playing games doesn't help.

I don't even think you're ready for a relationship if you're behaving like you are.

How old are you both?

It seems very immature to be playing games the way you are.
If he's busy, he's busy. A date once every two weeks at the very start of a 'relationship' is normal.

If he didn't like you, he wouldn't be messaging you.

You really don't need to tell him you miss him after 6 dates. It'll come across as way too much.

Just relax a bit. Let things happen naturally.
There is nothing worse with forced interactions/dates.

Playing games might put him off eventually, he will see through them and lose interest. Be confident and open about you want eventually (relationship vs. Casual not necessarily with him but in general). If if his intentions match yours, he will stick around, if he starts flaking then look at his actions but why play games?

If he reads your behaviour as you not being interested, he’ll (rightly) move on. Why would he chase if you’re not interested in him.